Janet could have it, or it could be typical teen feeling the whole world is agin him. I remember easy child insisting that her life was a mess, she had no friends, she was doing badly at school - everything was bad. But the reality was far different. OK, she wasn't the most popular girl at school, only the second most. And the friends she had were the true friends, the loyal ones who are still in touch, years later.
We had something like this last night - mother in law has been planning a plane trip for two months now. Then she got sick with serious heart problems. The heart problem almost magically fixed itself and the specialist said she was OK to fly. Her GP said she was OK to fly. She's taking blood thinners and MY GP made a remark about "Well, at least you won't get a DVT."
She's been apprehensive about it. She really wants to go and has been looking forward to this trip, but keeps telling me that this person or that person isn't happy about her going, despite what the doctors have said. various family members putting in their oar, I thought, and confusing the issue, making her all uncertain.
So last night we rang the other family members who mother in law had said were dead set against her trip. Turns out, they're pushing for her to take the trip. Everyone wants her to go and enjoy herself. What she's doing - projecting onto other people, her own fears and concerns. Her fear is understandable - she was afraid for her life - but now she's OK. It's just hard for her to accept that she's OK.
I wouldn't necessarily call this lying. It's embellishing maybe, but it could be what he believes.
difficult child 1's girlfriend is here today - she is a beautiful girl, a real knockout. And she keeps insisting she has a weight problem. The scales may say she's overweight, but she's solidly built. She has wide hips, a well-built bust and a tiny waist. She'll never be a waif, but if she loses weight she will look ill.
She's not lying when she says she's fat, even though it's not true. She is saying what she believes is true.
We saw her once in a dress and wearing make-up - she was a danger to traffic. Mostly she wears working clothes (shorts, t-shirt, loos baggy stuff) and no make-up. Hair either loose or pulled back roughly into a pony tail. What a waste. I wish I looked half that good, but not even at my best, could I hope for that...
She's not fishing for compliments, either - this is genuine self-image issues.
Kids!
Marg
PS by Marg's Man
Marg DID look that good when she was difficult child 1's girlfriend's age. But, like girlfriend, would not believe just HOW good she looked. She ALWAYS had some bloke hanging about when I was not on the scene. Even after we became an item I was beating them off with a stick, figuratively.
