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difficult child, Male, 11 yo, ADHD, ODD, (poster boy) HELP
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 262633" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The wearing-off reaction you describe sounds like rebound. To me, rebound feels like all the difficultbehaviours that were kept at bay all day by the medications, have now all slammed into us at once. Talk to the doctor about it.</p><p></p><p>The ODD - you can get something that looks a lot like ODD, purely from the way we try to discipline a kid who can't be managed in the usual way. The common technique, and the way so many of us were raised, is to tighten our control when kids seem to be OUT of control. But while this is brilliant for osme kids, for a lot of others and especially those with a number of underlying disorders, this is the worst thing you can do.</p><p></p><p>Also, a lot of the time we are trying to control too many behaviours at once with too many causes, or we're trying to control too tightly, and the kid simply isn't capable of holding it together.</p><p></p><p>If, for example, you try to manage issues which are primarily rebound, and you're trying to manage them with being stricter with the discipline, you're punishing him for raging, for bad language, for yelling at you, for tantrums, all at the end of the day when his control is shot to pieces - then you will CREATE something that is indistinguishable from ODD in appearance.</p><p></p><p>You can turn this around. It can be done. It can take time, and you have to let a lot of things go, but frankly, learning to let a lot of things go at least for a while is the easier option. It's definitely easier than slamming your head into a brick wall, which is probably what your current scenario feels like.</p><p></p><p>For the guidebook on how to do this, and how to really understand your son so you can help him learn self-control, read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. I swear, you will be recognising your son in the first few pages.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the site, there is a lot more I could say but I won't overload you for now.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 262633, member: 1991"] The wearing-off reaction you describe sounds like rebound. To me, rebound feels like all the difficultbehaviours that were kept at bay all day by the medications, have now all slammed into us at once. Talk to the doctor about it. The ODD - you can get something that looks a lot like ODD, purely from the way we try to discipline a kid who can't be managed in the usual way. The common technique, and the way so many of us were raised, is to tighten our control when kids seem to be OUT of control. But while this is brilliant for osme kids, for a lot of others and especially those with a number of underlying disorders, this is the worst thing you can do. Also, a lot of the time we are trying to control too many behaviours at once with too many causes, or we're trying to control too tightly, and the kid simply isn't capable of holding it together. If, for example, you try to manage issues which are primarily rebound, and you're trying to manage them with being stricter with the discipline, you're punishing him for raging, for bad language, for yelling at you, for tantrums, all at the end of the day when his control is shot to pieces - then you will CREATE something that is indistinguishable from ODD in appearance. You can turn this around. It can be done. It can take time, and you have to let a lot of things go, but frankly, learning to let a lot of things go at least for a while is the easier option. It's definitely easier than slamming your head into a brick wall, which is probably what your current scenario feels like. For the guidebook on how to do this, and how to really understand your son so you can help him learn self-control, read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. I swear, you will be recognising your son in the first few pages. Welcome to the site, there is a lot more I could say but I won't overload you for now. Marg [/QUOTE]
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