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difficult child, Male, 11 yo, ADHD, ODD, (poster boy) HELP
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 270006" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Amphetamines as a group aren't necessarily all bad. The two main ones, ritalin and dexamphetamine, can give different reactions. Our kids got rebound on ritalin but not on dexamphetamine. We now get our dex made up into sustained-release form by a compounding pharmacist.</p><p></p><p>We've tried alternatives, but for us they don't work. However, it's d ifferent for different people. </p><p></p><p>No management treatment is going to be perfect; you need up doing the best you can with what you've got. There is, unfortunately, no magic pill that akes it all go away and turns yourchild into an angel. And even if there were - there is still rthe long-term fallout of the probles your child has been having, which hve imprinted onto the child's personality (the low self-esteem, the "I can't do anything right, everyone hates me and always yells at me" stuff, the slower emotional/social maturity - a bigpackge) which you still have to deal with, that since it is not related to medications, no medications can really fix the underlying problems).</p><p></p><p>medications can help, but there are also a lot of personal therapies you need to put in place. And when I say "you" I mean the family (including the child) have a lot of work to do. Therapists can help, but all they can do is point us in the right direction and perhaps add a temporary guiding hand at times, to make sure we are staying on the right track. The hardest work is generallyhaving to be done by the child him/herself. For the parents, we always feel we are worknig even harder on this than our child, but this isn't a competition where we're on differentsides. The child's goals and the parents' goals are the same.</p><p></p><p>So you find what helps, you all work as a team and keep an air of cooperation and mutual support. Don't expect miracles, be glad of every improvement and keep written notes so you can look back later on to see just how far you've come.</p><p></p><p>When you're climbing a mountain sometimes you have to kep your foot firmly on the path so you can safely put one foot in front of the other and not fall. Your legs feel tired, you get hot and sweaty, you feel you're going nowhere. If you look up to see the top of the mountain it always looks further on - you think, "We'll be at the top when we pass that next rock," but you get there to see that the mountain continues. It's when you occasionally stop for a breather and look back at the view below, that you can see how far you have come. And that is what gives you the heart to keep going.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 270006, member: 1991"] Amphetamines as a group aren't necessarily all bad. The two main ones, ritalin and dexamphetamine, can give different reactions. Our kids got rebound on ritalin but not on dexamphetamine. We now get our dex made up into sustained-release form by a compounding pharmacist. We've tried alternatives, but for us they don't work. However, it's d ifferent for different people. No management treatment is going to be perfect; you need up doing the best you can with what you've got. There is, unfortunately, no magic pill that akes it all go away and turns yourchild into an angel. And even if there were - there is still rthe long-term fallout of the probles your child has been having, which hve imprinted onto the child's personality (the low self-esteem, the "I can't do anything right, everyone hates me and always yells at me" stuff, the slower emotional/social maturity - a bigpackge) which you still have to deal with, that since it is not related to medications, no medications can really fix the underlying problems). medications can help, but there are also a lot of personal therapies you need to put in place. And when I say "you" I mean the family (including the child) have a lot of work to do. Therapists can help, but all they can do is point us in the right direction and perhaps add a temporary guiding hand at times, to make sure we are staying on the right track. The hardest work is generallyhaving to be done by the child him/herself. For the parents, we always feel we are worknig even harder on this than our child, but this isn't a competition where we're on differentsides. The child's goals and the parents' goals are the same. So you find what helps, you all work as a team and keep an air of cooperation and mutual support. Don't expect miracles, be glad of every improvement and keep written notes so you can look back later on to see just how far you've come. When you're climbing a mountain sometimes you have to kep your foot firmly on the path so you can safely put one foot in front of the other and not fall. Your legs feel tired, you get hot and sweaty, you feel you're going nowhere. If you look up to see the top of the mountain it always looks further on - you think, "We'll be at the top when we pass that next rock," but you get there to see that the mountain continues. It's when you occasionally stop for a breather and look back at the view below, that you can see how far you have come. And that is what gives you the heart to keep going. Marg [/QUOTE]
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