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difficult child moved out the day after high school graduation
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 538907" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>First of all, are you POSITIVE that she isn't taking recreational drugs or drinking a lot?</p><p></p><p>Secondly, I am betting that this move was planned way in advance and she just played the game until graduation night. On the other hand, she is eighteen and unless you can prove she is unfit and you are her legal guardian, she can live with him as long as she likes. I'd personally make it harder by taking the car if it was in my name. If she caused any damage, I'd call the cops. Being soft on these kids really doesn't help them. Of course, anything you do may glue her closer to Mr. Wonderful. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter is only 18 or 19. She can go back to college any time she desires. Her life is not over. Her chance at a career is not over. However, it does sound as if your daughter has MANY challenges and disabilities. Maybe she didn't want to go to college. Maybe she felt it was expected of her, but she really didn't want to go. Did she have the option of getting a job rather than going to college? Sounds like she didn't like school very much and very well may not want any more of it, at least not now. Not all kids want to or should go to college and, my own belief is, it should be up to the child. Some kids may handle one or two classes better than a full load too. Was it her own idea to go to college?</p><p></p><p>As for any magic that you can do to make her come home and live the life you want for her, there is nothing. She has to decide to do it herself. My guess is that eventually she'll get tired of her current lifestyle. In the meantime, I wouldn't try to interfere too much. You don't want to turn them into Romeo and Juliette.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 538907, member: 1550"] First of all, are you POSITIVE that she isn't taking recreational drugs or drinking a lot? Secondly, I am betting that this move was planned way in advance and she just played the game until graduation night. On the other hand, she is eighteen and unless you can prove she is unfit and you are her legal guardian, she can live with him as long as she likes. I'd personally make it harder by taking the car if it was in my name. If she caused any damage, I'd call the cops. Being soft on these kids really doesn't help them. Of course, anything you do may glue her closer to Mr. Wonderful. Your daughter is only 18 or 19. She can go back to college any time she desires. Her life is not over. Her chance at a career is not over. However, it does sound as if your daughter has MANY challenges and disabilities. Maybe she didn't want to go to college. Maybe she felt it was expected of her, but she really didn't want to go. Did she have the option of getting a job rather than going to college? Sounds like she didn't like school very much and very well may not want any more of it, at least not now. Not all kids want to or should go to college and, my own belief is, it should be up to the child. Some kids may handle one or two classes better than a full load too. Was it her own idea to go to college? As for any magic that you can do to make her come home and live the life you want for her, there is nothing. She has to decide to do it herself. My guess is that eventually she'll get tired of her current lifestyle. In the meantime, I wouldn't try to interfere too much. You don't want to turn them into Romeo and Juliette. [/QUOTE]
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