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<blockquote data-quote="tryagain" data-source="post: 538923" data-attributes="member: 14865"><p>Hey, Midwest Mom, thanks for writing back. It warms my heart that several of you would care enough to write the "noob" back. For once, I have several people all in one place who can relate to my situation!</p><p>To answer your questions - I left out many, many sordid details because I didn't want to write a "book" for my first post. But here are some details I didn't include that may help things make more sense (what an joke that is!! None of this "makes sense", lol)</p><p>The lady who owns the trailer keeps something of an eye on them, and they aren't drinking, etc. They just sit around all day, she says! Both of them! Plus, her psychiatrist is one of the few persons with any influence on her, and he's talked candidly with her about what could happen if any of her numerous psychiatric medications interacted with alcohol. If she is drinking any, I don't think it'd be much bc she is very scared of having something go wrong.</p><p>Re: the car; it was her graduation present and we gave it to her at the end of junior year to motivate her. She had failed 2 classes junior year, and we wanted to inspire her. (It worked - she made it!) The car was several years old, but it was the make/model she learned to drive on and she liked it very much. So we did ask the psychiatrist his opinion. His thought was instead, just don't buy gas for it. Some of the people she is consorting with are "rough around the edges" and if she ever needs to get away, this would at least provide that option. We also have considered taking the phone, but again, there might be a real need for us to communicate with her (death of family member, etc.) and the lady putting up with them is so poor, she could not pay cable this month...so the lady's phone isn't a great alternative. Other than those 2 things, we are staying back from any assistance other than paying for health related things like doctor visit and medications (which we definitely want to continue). </p><p>Re: college; she has always talked about going and studying art to either be a graphic designer, sculptor, or art teacher. She didn't do well on the required college entrance test, so a community college is a great option for her. And yes, we have told her that she might just try one or two classes in her strength area, art, to begin with. She does hate to study, so we weren't going to push her into anything or she'd just balk and not study. We also encouraged her to get a job, but she has not tried a bit. We suggested getting a part time job at the community college, maybe even in the art school. She always acted like she liked these ideas, but never followed through on a thing. So...she now has no goals, no job, no money, and is imitating someone with the same outlook. So depressing. At least we have an excellent psychiatrist who is our ally, and at least she's not out on the streets.</p><p>Again, thank you for being a friend! Now I have to figure out how to make a signature with a little bio. and the other touches.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryagain, post: 538923, member: 14865"] Hey, Midwest Mom, thanks for writing back. It warms my heart that several of you would care enough to write the "noob" back. For once, I have several people all in one place who can relate to my situation! To answer your questions - I left out many, many sordid details because I didn't want to write a "book" for my first post. But here are some details I didn't include that may help things make more sense (what an joke that is!! None of this "makes sense", lol) The lady who owns the trailer keeps something of an eye on them, and they aren't drinking, etc. They just sit around all day, she says! Both of them! Plus, her psychiatrist is one of the few persons with any influence on her, and he's talked candidly with her about what could happen if any of her numerous psychiatric medications interacted with alcohol. If she is drinking any, I don't think it'd be much bc she is very scared of having something go wrong. Re: the car; it was her graduation present and we gave it to her at the end of junior year to motivate her. She had failed 2 classes junior year, and we wanted to inspire her. (It worked - she made it!) The car was several years old, but it was the make/model she learned to drive on and she liked it very much. So we did ask the psychiatrist his opinion. His thought was instead, just don't buy gas for it. Some of the people she is consorting with are "rough around the edges" and if she ever needs to get away, this would at least provide that option. We also have considered taking the phone, but again, there might be a real need for us to communicate with her (death of family member, etc.) and the lady putting up with them is so poor, she could not pay cable this month...so the lady's phone isn't a great alternative. Other than those 2 things, we are staying back from any assistance other than paying for health related things like doctor visit and medications (which we definitely want to continue). Re: college; she has always talked about going and studying art to either be a graphic designer, sculptor, or art teacher. She didn't do well on the required college entrance test, so a community college is a great option for her. And yes, we have told her that she might just try one or two classes in her strength area, art, to begin with. She does hate to study, so we weren't going to push her into anything or she'd just balk and not study. We also encouraged her to get a job, but she has not tried a bit. We suggested getting a part time job at the community college, maybe even in the art school. She always acted like she liked these ideas, but never followed through on a thing. So...she now has no goals, no job, no money, and is imitating someone with the same outlook. So depressing. At least we have an excellent psychiatrist who is our ally, and at least she's not out on the streets. Again, thank you for being a friend! Now I have to figure out how to make a signature with a little bio. and the other touches. [/QUOTE]
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