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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 139683" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>Speaking from personal experience, the more I gave to difficult child, and did for him-the less he needed to do for himself. Don't make it a "given" that you'll be right there to pick up after her, and make everything right. I know it 's hard because you love her and your grandchild. She has to follow the rules-whatever rules you need to have in place where your house is a home to you-if she doesn't(and why would she?) (my difficult child thought those rules were a joke)out she goes. I don't mean to be harsh, I had a restraining order against my own child, but that's the only way he learned. The hard way. Think of the goal, to have her be a functioning adult, able to take care of herself and her child. Do what you can to see she gets a hand up from you, as opposed to a hand out that she doesn't appreciate. Like BBK, I had a child at age 20, it was a major wake up call for me- I only had myself. -Alyssa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 139683, member: 2668"] Speaking from personal experience, the more I gave to difficult child, and did for him-the less he needed to do for himself. Don't make it a "given" that you'll be right there to pick up after her, and make everything right. I know it 's hard because you love her and your grandchild. She has to follow the rules-whatever rules you need to have in place where your house is a home to you-if she doesn't(and why would she?) (my difficult child thought those rules were a joke)out she goes. I don't mean to be harsh, I had a restraining order against my own child, but that's the only way he learned. The hard way. Think of the goal, to have her be a functioning adult, able to take care of herself and her child. Do what you can to see she gets a hand up from you, as opposed to a hand out that she doesn't appreciate. Like BBK, I had a child at age 20, it was a major wake up call for me- I only had myself. -Alyssa [/QUOTE]
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