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I am glad she doesn't live with you.  I understand the ingrained idea that pot is 'no big deal'. I worked in a place, and most of my friends did too, where pot use was expected and normal.  It was a restaurant with a hippie atmosphere run by very lovely people.  Even there, if it got out of hand and you caused problems, you were out.  The thing I loved was that while I was offered all sorts of drugs, I was not pushed to use any of them.  My choice to say no, which was due to other health problems and medications I was on, was respected.  The one time someone started to pressure me, other people got really angry because that kind of pressure wasn't acceptable to any of us.  I was maybe the token 'straight person', but it wasn't seen that way or made a big deal of.


Now my kids are all clean and sober, even my adult son who is old enough to drink doesn't.  He has no shortage of friends,always has lots of things to go do, and his friends are all very moderate drinkers and none use drugs.  There is no social isolation just because you don't use, but it is a different mindset and blaming the choice to use drugs on 'everyone does it' is just nonsense.


I am glad you share here and that you are working toward the attitude that no means no and that you won't tolerate or support any drug use.  Please realize that if you have had a problem with a drug, ANY use of drugs ESPECIALLY that one will only lead to more drug use.  Please don't fall back into the trap of thinking that just on weekends or once or twice is okay.  It just isn't if you have a problem.  Abstaining for a while doesn't make the problem go away.  it isn't like an infection that goes away if you take antibiotics.  It is more like a herpes that is always there even if it isn't active right this minute.


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