I agree with MWM that Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), which is a form of anxiety, is fueling your daughter's behavior. Your daughter is not terrorizing you on purpose; her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is terrorizing her, which is turn causes her to escalate.
Have you asked her why she won't take Risperdal? Perhaps it makes her feel funny, and it's not the right medication. While Risperdal treats anger and aggression, it is not necessarily going to target her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). The SSRIs Prozac, Zoloft and Luvox as well as the tricyclic AD Anafranil are FDA-approved to treat Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in children. You might want to talk to the psychiatrist about starting one of those medications.
When our kids went on medications, we told them (in a quiet moment) they had a lot of choices in their life, but taking medications was not of them. We also told them they could always tell us and their psychiatrist whether the medications made them feel bad and we would look at different options if the side effects were too awful to live with. We made them partners in their own treatment.
If we got to a time when they refused their medications, we sometimes offered a choice that didn't affect the final outcome -- Do you want to take your medications at 8 am or 9 am? Do you want to go bike riding or take the dog for a walk after you take your medications? Or we would "stop the world" -- no TV, computer, video games, going anywhere, etc -- until the medication was taken.
Good luck.
