I think you may want to look at a second opinion there. If he is more interested in blaming you than in looking at all the possibilities, that's a red flag right there. At one point we changed difficult child 2's primary care doctor because when biomom had him put on Concerta, husband went to see doctor to find out whatever he could. doctor literally screamed at husband and told him it was his fault that easy child had severe ADHD and that he needed to stop beating his son. (Last I checked, that doesn't cause ADHD and he doesn't do it in any case... Interesting.) The same doctor is difficult child 1's primary care, but that situation is a lot different (although he keeps telling us that we need to discipline her - I'd like to see him try). difficult child 1 will complain that she doesn't feel well, but if a doctor visit is in the cards she will do whatever she can to prove she's fine. She got to the point last summer with a stomach virus that we had to do the Urgent Care thing and she got a shot. She won't do that again anytime soon.
However - in your case - there are so many possibilities and possible combinations of said possibilities that anyone flat refusing to consider them is just scary. You can't live like that.
Regarding the refusal to take medications... difficult child 1 has done that, several times. The first one, the Risperdone, she said was because she didn't want to depend on them for the rest of her life. We discussed what they're for - certainly not a forever thing, just to get her over the hump so she could learn how to deal with her anger, and then we'd reassess the situation. No problems after that, until they put her on bupropion - AKA Wellbutrin. She got real bad about refusing this (but not the Seroquel). After a few fights she finally screamed, "It's making my hallucinations worse!"
AHA.
psychiatrist agreed we needed to take her off.
Hallucinations are down to a dull roar now, tolerable for us all.
However if your difficult child has never taken it, something will need to be done. And if you have to hide the medications, so be it. I would say try the normal way every day, and have a backup plan handy. How did she find out about the cod liver oil? I'd refuse that, too. If her medications are soluble in water, drop the darn thing into chocolate milk (the chocolate covers up a lot, I've discovered).
And good luck. I am sending you hugs and all the extra luck I can spare!
