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Not true, Stella. Aspies grow up, get married, and have kids.

Type in "Aspies marriage" or some such thing on Google and print out the reponses to show your dr.

He has some preconceived notion about Aspies that is very old.

It is a spectrum.

Aspies do not like to meet people, but once they are comfortable with-people, they are generally okay.

Your daughter sounds a lot like my son, especially with-the bedtime rituals.

He used to play with-his toys (aka line them up) at the top of the stairs and I'd get mad after tripping over them, and I'd kick them to kingdom come. BAD idea. WWIII.

Now, I provoked him, but still, his reaction continued for hrs and hrs.

Same with-when we had to go out someplace. It took hrs.

The medications he's on HAVE helped--Adderall and Clonidine.

Getting rid of the anxiety is a HUGE factor.

Lots of Aspies use medications for their anxiety. Temple Grandin is on Prozac, for example.

 

Your daughter may be angry at you, but I don't think she's trying to control you. I think SHE's OUT of CONTROL. Not the same thing. Once she's in that mindset, there's no getting out of it. Your only remedy at this point is to find her triggers (like her bedtime toys) and avoid them, and learn how to prevent her from escalating.

 

Also, talk with-her when she's calm, and tell her she needs a Plan B for the next time she can't find her fave toy at bedtime, because going out in the street and screaming is not normal. Speak calmly but firmly and try to get her to come up with-a solution, which will probably be another toy, and a plan to look for the original in the a.m.

 

In regard to medications, get an authority figure to sit down and talk to you two about it to her. My son respects police, doctors and teachers and will listen to them way b4 he listens to me. We worked for mo's to get him to take his Adderall because he couldn't swallow it. We ended up pouring it in applesauce.

 

Good luck!


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