Thanks again for all your advice and suggestions. I am defintely going to implement a chip or token system. I was taking to a friend of mine who is an ABA Therapist and she suggested this also. She also reiterated how important it is that I give the tokens generously -i.e. for any positive act difficult child does! I have decided that I am going to continue to use the methods suggested in The Explosive Child, but Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) rituals are no longer going to be a Basket C as I think I have been making the rituals stronger by going along with them. I'm anticipating a huge backlash but so be it. Hopefully it will make things better in the long-run rather than trying to take the easy way out for the short-term by going along with them! Interestingly my mother came up to my house to mind difficult child last night and when she was putting her to bed she doesn't go through the same ritual with her!!! I will have to explore if she has different rituals with other people or if all her rituals must involve me!! My main challenge is that she refuses to discuss anything with me. Even if I approach her when shes calm, if i try to approach the subject she starts screaming and covering her ears etc etc. She just WON'T listen or talk about her behaviours at all.
I am going to have a look at that Yahoo Group too and hopefully will learn more there also.
Thanks again for you all your valuable help. Hugs to you all!!
