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As one with a child on the spectrum as well as a grown child who is probably close to an Aspie and has severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)--you can't take a strong stand on the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and do anything other than terrify the child. It won't change his behavior or his fear and I really hope you don't go there. I would try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and keep trying on the medications. But I can't imagine how you can change the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) behavior by getting confrontational about it. He's not being "bad." He's terrified. People with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), whether or not they are on the spectrum, are afraid of not doing their rituals and the best and only way I know of to address that is to directly treat the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I'm afraid you'll make a bad situation even worse. (((Hugs))). Good luck, whatever you decide.