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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 151497" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi Stressed,</p><p> </p><p>I found this place because my difficult child had a severe case of school anxiety and was refusing to go and I know how gut wrenching it is. My difficult child was 6 or 7 at the time--same age as yours. This often looks like it's just plain stubborness on the part of the child but for a child with the cluster of problems that yours has its his way of waving a flag and saying that something is really wrong. </p><p> </p><p>Personally I would put my foot down with the principal--no police, no dragging him into school. This is a child with neurological differences and what needs to be done is to find out what is problematic for him at school and what can be done to support him to succeed. </p><p> </p><p>I've just gone back over some of your posts-I'm not a betting woman but if I were I would bet there is more going on than just ODD with your son. If psychiatrists have been the principal diagnosticians for your son, you need to go further and have him assessed by a neuropsychologist or developmental pediatrician. If he's a bright kid (mine started reading at age 2) with obsessive tendencies and sensory issues, then you want to make sure that someone with expertise in higher functioning Autistic Spectrum Disorders is involved with the assessment. Mine wound up having Autistic traits falling short of the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) criteria and knowing that really helped us help him. Don't count on his psychiatrist on picking up on Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)'s.</p><p> </p><p>Advice for dealing with the school anxiety:</p><p>First, schedule an appointment with your son's pediatrician to make sure there's nothing like strept throat, etc going on. A parent's relationship with the school can really be messed up when a kids goes the school refusal route and this will help establish that you're serious about getting to the bottom of the problem. </p><p> </p><p>Second, if school refusal due to anxiety has reached levels where it's way over the top, a homebound instructor can be provided by the school to instruct him a few hours a day at home or another location. You would need an signed authorization from your child's pediatrician or better yet, his psychiatrist. Dragging him in, involving the police is probably going to make things worse for him.</p><p> </p><p>Third, if they aren't open to homebound you can call for an IEP meeting to up the level of supports. They won't like this at this late stage in the ballgame but there are things they can do at school such as give him classroom breaks, sensory breaks, pull out, accomodations, etc that can ease things for him at school. It's best to have something more firm on paper from your doctor because ODD isn't going to justify this increased level of services.</p><p> </p><p>If his behavior has reached a point where everything is a fight then you need to consider that his medications aren't right, and that the Tenex may actually be contributing to the problem behavior. </p><p> </p><p>What's his play behavior like? Does he play with regular toys? Any lining up of toys or other household objects? Collect things likes sticks, stones, string?</p><p>Does he have typical interests of 6 year olds? </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there--this is a tough life to live and I hope you'll find the right path for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 151497, member: 701"] Hi Stressed, I found this place because my difficult child had a severe case of school anxiety and was refusing to go and I know how gut wrenching it is. My difficult child was 6 or 7 at the time--same age as yours. This often looks like it's just plain stubborness on the part of the child but for a child with the cluster of problems that yours has its his way of waving a flag and saying that something is really wrong. Personally I would put my foot down with the principal--no police, no dragging him into school. This is a child with neurological differences and what needs to be done is to find out what is problematic for him at school and what can be done to support him to succeed. I've just gone back over some of your posts-I'm not a betting woman but if I were I would bet there is more going on than just ODD with your son. If psychiatrists have been the principal diagnosticians for your son, you need to go further and have him assessed by a neuropsychologist or developmental pediatrician. If he's a bright kid (mine started reading at age 2) with obsessive tendencies and sensory issues, then you want to make sure that someone with expertise in higher functioning Autistic Spectrum Disorders is involved with the assessment. Mine wound up having Autistic traits falling short of the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) criteria and knowing that really helped us help him. Don't count on his psychiatrist on picking up on Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)'s. Advice for dealing with the school anxiety: First, schedule an appointment with your son's pediatrician to make sure there's nothing like strept throat, etc going on. A parent's relationship with the school can really be messed up when a kids goes the school refusal route and this will help establish that you're serious about getting to the bottom of the problem. Second, if school refusal due to anxiety has reached levels where it's way over the top, a homebound instructor can be provided by the school to instruct him a few hours a day at home or another location. You would need an signed authorization from your child's pediatrician or better yet, his psychiatrist. Dragging him in, involving the police is probably going to make things worse for him. Third, if they aren't open to homebound you can call for an IEP meeting to up the level of supports. They won't like this at this late stage in the ballgame but there are things they can do at school such as give him classroom breaks, sensory breaks, pull out, accomodations, etc that can ease things for him at school. It's best to have something more firm on paper from your doctor because ODD isn't going to justify this increased level of services. If his behavior has reached a point where everything is a fight then you need to consider that his medications aren't right, and that the Tenex may actually be contributing to the problem behavior. What's his play behavior like? Does he play with regular toys? Any lining up of toys or other household objects? Collect things likes sticks, stones, string? Does he have typical interests of 6 year olds? Hang in there--this is a tough life to live and I hope you'll find the right path for him. [/QUOTE]
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