Good for you Tanya. To get to the place you've arrived takes us so long.......to be able to take the internal stand that "the only thing we can offer is our love and prayers" is borne out of all the suffering we did before we learned how to accept what is. And, as I have learned, nine times out of ten, if not ten out of ten, when we refrain, they find their own answers.
We have to acknowledge ourselves in this odd territory we find ourselves in.........toast yourself for your strength and resolve.......you done good girl........real good........