So I checked my FB to see if he had responded to my message and was not suprised to find that he hadn't. I looked at his page and he had posted that he found a job. I wanted so bad to comment but chose not to. It's one thing if he sends me a private message, I will respond to that but I will not make comments when it's to the general public.
I will always have hope that someday he will get his life together and that we can have a viable relationship but I am a realist and will need to see tangible proof that he has changed.
It's such a fine line we walk as to when to communicate with our difficult child's.
I do wish him well in whatever job it is that he found but lets just say my optomism is very guarded, it's like major deja vu.
(a little back history here: my difficult child has several FB accounts all with crazy names. He had unfriended me on one of the accounts over a year ago, then a couple of weeks ago sent me a friend request under one of his other alias names. The reason I chose to accept goes back to my hope that someday........... but I am also very careful. I have my security settings set to where he can see nothing on my wall, no photos, no comments, none of my personal info so basically he can communicate with me via private messages only. Again, I do hope that someday he will get his life together but until then I will keep a safe distance)
