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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 751475" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Within hours of the car keys being handed over, son stated he will not do the Masters degree he had agreed to getting just a short week ago. We were trying to help him get to where he wanted to be which was to teach college</p><p></p><p>And it's all because he doesn't want to take the GRE test for grad school. He claims to be burnt out academically but to me this is what he does: half effort , if it doesn't come easy , he won't do it, layzness, and not acting on his own behalf. </p><p></p><p>Out of all of this ensued a conversation that I did not like at all: he presses me to disclose what I think and I end up being very critical. He said he feels like the black sheep of the family, that no matter what he does, it is never good enough and I can see how he feels that way with the things I said. I will not condone his pot use. I told him I accept it and I don't have to like it --which I don't. He has dabbled in other drugs but he doesnt know that I know .His therapist told him he is not an addict that he just likes to have a good time every once in a while. But he didn't tell her he got stoned every day for a whole semester . He has all kinds of excuses of why he used pot and then I try to disprove that and call out his BS and we go round and round and round and I just feel really bad afterwards .I want to be loving and supportive, encouraging, and I can't do it with these conversations. So I need to make a commitment to myself to not engage in conversations anymore. </p><p></p><p>It feels like he blames me for encouraging him to get a degree (said he was miserable the entire time) , and resents that I see so much potential in him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 751475, member: 24254"] Within hours of the car keys being handed over, son stated he will not do the Masters degree he had agreed to getting just a short week ago. We were trying to help him get to where he wanted to be which was to teach college And it's all because he doesn't want to take the GRE test for grad school. He claims to be burnt out academically but to me this is what he does: half effort , if it doesn't come easy , he won't do it, layzness, and not acting on his own behalf. Out of all of this ensued a conversation that I did not like at all: he presses me to disclose what I think and I end up being very critical. He said he feels like the black sheep of the family, that no matter what he does, it is never good enough and I can see how he feels that way with the things I said. I will not condone his pot use. I told him I accept it and I don't have to like it --which I don't. He has dabbled in other drugs but he doesnt know that I know .His therapist told him he is not an addict that he just likes to have a good time every once in a while. But he didn't tell her he got stoned every day for a whole semester . He has all kinds of excuses of why he used pot and then I try to disprove that and call out his BS and we go round and round and round and I just feel really bad afterwards .I want to be loving and supportive, encouraging, and I can't do it with these conversations. So I need to make a commitment to myself to not engage in conversations anymore. It feels like he blames me for encouraging him to get a degree (said he was miserable the entire time) , and resents that I see so much potential in him. [/QUOTE]
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