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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 606045" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Welcome to the board, but very sorry you have to join us.</p><p></p><p>A few thoughts.</p><p></p><p>This child WAS adopted at a slightly older age which can cause attachment problems and, in turn, the child can become a sociopath. Very unstable early years can last a lifetime and be hard to treat. That is not ADHD...that's an inability to connect emotionally to other people, parents included. It is often missed unless a specialist who sees a lot of older adopted children is the person diagnosing the child and it takes very specific help, far beyond the help a child with just ADHD would require.</p><p></p><p> There is nothing that you wrote about him, unless much was left out, that would make me think he is even close to being a sociopath. Unless there is something you aren't telling us, his problems developed late and in college, which often happens and is usually due to sudden exposure to drug use and getting involved in it. This is not exactly "typical", but it's common. Not studying, not wearing a helmet when he said he would, and the deal with the truck does also not make him a psychopath. Kids lie all the time to get out of trouble too. So I think you're being a little hard on him unless this isn't even close to the real story.</p><p></p><p>Why don't you give us a history on him, from when you got him, to before that, if you know his birthfamily history. Was he exposed to drugs or alcohol in utero? I'm thinking he wasn't because he did so well in school. Besides ADHD, was he ever diagnosed with anything else? Was he violent? Did he steal? Was he sexually inappropriate? ANy fascination with fire or playing with it? Starting fires? Inappropriate peeing and pooping all over the house? Cruelty to animals? How were his early milestones? Did he do well with his peers? Seems like it. He was on sports teams and that requires the ability to participate in teamwork.</p><p></p><p>My best layman's guess is that he has become involved, more or less, in some sort of drug use, although I don't even know about that. Or he is in a power struggle with you and your husband and got huffy and moved out. </p><p></p><p>One thing you are 100% right about. JT's problems are JT's problems now. He is over 18 and out of the house and responsible for his choices.</p><p></p><p>Keep us updated <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Glad you're here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 606045, member: 1550"] Hi there. Welcome to the board, but very sorry you have to join us. A few thoughts. This child WAS adopted at a slightly older age which can cause attachment problems and, in turn, the child can become a sociopath. Very unstable early years can last a lifetime and be hard to treat. That is not ADHD...that's an inability to connect emotionally to other people, parents included. It is often missed unless a specialist who sees a lot of older adopted children is the person diagnosing the child and it takes very specific help, far beyond the help a child with just ADHD would require. There is nothing that you wrote about him, unless much was left out, that would make me think he is even close to being a sociopath. Unless there is something you aren't telling us, his problems developed late and in college, which often happens and is usually due to sudden exposure to drug use and getting involved in it. This is not exactly "typical", but it's common. Not studying, not wearing a helmet when he said he would, and the deal with the truck does also not make him a psychopath. Kids lie all the time to get out of trouble too. So I think you're being a little hard on him unless this isn't even close to the real story. Why don't you give us a history on him, from when you got him, to before that, if you know his birthfamily history. Was he exposed to drugs or alcohol in utero? I'm thinking he wasn't because he did so well in school. Besides ADHD, was he ever diagnosed with anything else? Was he violent? Did he steal? Was he sexually inappropriate? ANy fascination with fire or playing with it? Starting fires? Inappropriate peeing and pooping all over the house? Cruelty to animals? How were his early milestones? Did he do well with his peers? Seems like it. He was on sports teams and that requires the ability to participate in teamwork. My best layman's guess is that he has become involved, more or less, in some sort of drug use, although I don't even know about that. Or he is in a power struggle with you and your husband and got huffy and moved out. One thing you are 100% right about. JT's problems are JT's problems now. He is over 18 and out of the house and responsible for his choices. Keep us updated :) Glad you're here. [/QUOTE]
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