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difficult child (Sociopath?) Leaving - Mixed Emotions
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 606069" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I feel the same way about my son. Although he was never actually diagnosed by a professional, he has too many of the traits. I did have about a year and a half with my son clean and sober, he was a completely different person. He has relapsed now and, in my opinion, worse than he was before. He started the lies, conns for money, everything they do all over again, this time he is in a relationship with another full fledge difficult child. He went no contact with me after I refuse to keep handing over money.</p><p></p><p>My son started using at a very early age and I felt a lot of guilt due to my marriage and his father not being in his life. Regardless of the past situations they have to learn to be a productive member of society. I don't hold my breath for mine, but I do not give up hope.</p><p></p><p>At his age there is nothing you can do for him that he doesn't want to do. Counseling does help, support groups, and this forum is a great place to vent and learn from.</p><p></p><p>Detaching does not happen over night, but once you understand how powerless you are, it is really the only thing you can do. It is really sad with these kids, it's like they are programmed to self destruct. There are programs out there to help them. mine won't, maybe yours will.</p><p></p><p>I never in a million years would have believed my gifted son would turn out like he is. I try very hard not to judge, accept him as he is, but I no longer enable him in any way. There are some great books on enabling, I suggest you read them, I thought I had stopped enabling and I was very surprised at how much I still was.</p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 606069, member: 13558"] I feel the same way about my son. Although he was never actually diagnosed by a professional, he has too many of the traits. I did have about a year and a half with my son clean and sober, he was a completely different person. He has relapsed now and, in my opinion, worse than he was before. He started the lies, conns for money, everything they do all over again, this time he is in a relationship with another full fledge difficult child. He went no contact with me after I refuse to keep handing over money. My son started using at a very early age and I felt a lot of guilt due to my marriage and his father not being in his life. Regardless of the past situations they have to learn to be a productive member of society. I don't hold my breath for mine, but I do not give up hope. At his age there is nothing you can do for him that he doesn't want to do. Counseling does help, support groups, and this forum is a great place to vent and learn from. Detaching does not happen over night, but once you understand how powerless you are, it is really the only thing you can do. It is really sad with these kids, it's like they are programmed to self destruct. There are programs out there to help them. mine won't, maybe yours will. I never in a million years would have believed my gifted son would turn out like he is. I try very hard not to judge, accept him as he is, but I no longer enable him in any way. There are some great books on enabling, I suggest you read them, I thought I had stopped enabling and I was very surprised at how much I still was. (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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