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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 606085" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Hi and welcome,</p><p>I was going to suggest you encourage him to seek professional help, but I'm pretty sure he will think he's smarter than the shrink, so I'm guessing you've been down that road to no avail. </p><p>You seem like you're trying so hard to model proper behavior for your son to learn and implement, but he's very shallow, and I think the best you can hope for is a superficial relationship. That's pretty much what I have with my son. We talk, but he's so full of baloney most of the time, I just can't anymore. He is the most exasperating person I've ever encountered, and although he's incredibly talented, I'm not sure he will ever make a thing out of himself because he self sabotages constantly.</p><p>My son is the same age as yours and was also adopted at about 17 mos. old. He's impulsive, has (possibly is) using drugs, and doesn't live with us any longer. I admit that I still occasionally get pulled into the whirlpool of chaos he creates, but that is an infrequent occasion lately, thank God.</p><p>It seems to me you've done all you could, you can offer guidance when it's requested, but otherwise, don't let him con you anymore. You will never, ever win at this game, believe me. They're very cagey, and know how to push our buttons, (with mine it's guilt), so don't hand over any more money till he becomes a "producer" instead of a "consumer."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 606085, member: 13882"] Hi and welcome, I was going to suggest you encourage him to seek professional help, but I'm pretty sure he will think he's smarter than the shrink, so I'm guessing you've been down that road to no avail. You seem like you're trying so hard to model proper behavior for your son to learn and implement, but he's very shallow, and I think the best you can hope for is a superficial relationship. That's pretty much what I have with my son. We talk, but he's so full of baloney most of the time, I just can't anymore. He is the most exasperating person I've ever encountered, and although he's incredibly talented, I'm not sure he will ever make a thing out of himself because he self sabotages constantly. My son is the same age as yours and was also adopted at about 17 mos. old. He's impulsive, has (possibly is) using drugs, and doesn't live with us any longer. I admit that I still occasionally get pulled into the whirlpool of chaos he creates, but that is an infrequent occasion lately, thank God. It seems to me you've done all you could, you can offer guidance when it's requested, but otherwise, don't let him con you anymore. You will never, ever win at this game, believe me. They're very cagey, and know how to push our buttons, (with mine it's guilt), so don't hand over any more money till he becomes a "producer" instead of a "consumer." [/QUOTE]
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