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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 631489" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>JKF, my son and girlie would posts fights on FB complete with very vulgar language, then difficult child got into a fight on FB with another difficult child cousin (the entire family and friends had to weigh in of course), then difficult child would post about no one ever loving him and can't sleep and I'm suicidal can someone talk me through it. Then he broke off contact with family and suddenly came back admitting to online porn, prostitutes, and having his beautiful girlfriend falsely arrested, it was girlie posting as him when they had a fight.</p><p></p><p>Another drama event with a family married to a difficult child involving vulgar language, sex for drugs waking up in the neighbors bed, driving intoxicated with two preschoolers in the backseat. All posted on FB.</p><p></p><p>I know that everyone sees them face value BUT it stirred up the gossip and all of the speculation of will he actually do it or not? (I did call the police and have him checked)</p><p></p><p>I was sick and tired of it, fed up with everything and everyone, ready to tell meddling family members discussing what I had done wrong in raising him, YOU take him in if you can do better. He refused to get help and all he really wanted was a monthly check. He would rather sleep in the woods than go to a shelter.</p><p></p><p>So I got off FB, and ignored difficult child. He went no contact with me, threatened suicide, and I was told that I needed to prepare myself that one day he actually may do it. Prepare myself for THAT, HOW??</p><p></p><p>The distance from no contact helped me tremendously! I would never tell a parent to go no contact it is extremely painful, but his decision to stop talking to me gave me a chance to clear my head. He has started contacting me again, every now and then he drifts away for a few months. He asked me to join twitter and I said no thanks. He can call collect but he prefers emails.</p><p></p><p>He got a job and moved to Denver, do ya think it had anything to do with the laws lol!!!! He says he is working, I'm not sure he is not homeless and panhandling.</p><p></p><p>Girlie came after him with a knife and he called police and she was in detox for three months. She is now with him in Denver. I had to call police to stop her harassment, but it did stop.</p><p></p><p>This is the life he wants and it's his to live, just don't ask me to donate the money to support it. It broke my heart, I had to mourn as in a death, it is in a sense. I now accept it as out of my hands and really don't discuss it with family or friends.</p><p></p><p>There is certainly nothing wrong with taking a time out FOR YOU, in my case, difficult child finally understood I expected him to take responsibility for his life, he is an adult. There is no way I would ever go back to the relationship we had.</p><p></p><p>(((blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 631489, member: 13558"] JKF, my son and girlie would posts fights on FB complete with very vulgar language, then difficult child got into a fight on FB with another difficult child cousin (the entire family and friends had to weigh in of course), then difficult child would post about no one ever loving him and can't sleep and I'm suicidal can someone talk me through it. Then he broke off contact with family and suddenly came back admitting to online porn, prostitutes, and having his beautiful girlfriend falsely arrested, it was girlie posting as him when they had a fight. Another drama event with a family married to a difficult child involving vulgar language, sex for drugs waking up in the neighbors bed, driving intoxicated with two preschoolers in the backseat. All posted on FB. I know that everyone sees them face value BUT it stirred up the gossip and all of the speculation of will he actually do it or not? (I did call the police and have him checked) I was sick and tired of it, fed up with everything and everyone, ready to tell meddling family members discussing what I had done wrong in raising him, YOU take him in if you can do better. He refused to get help and all he really wanted was a monthly check. He would rather sleep in the woods than go to a shelter. So I got off FB, and ignored difficult child. He went no contact with me, threatened suicide, and I was told that I needed to prepare myself that one day he actually may do it. Prepare myself for THAT, HOW?? The distance from no contact helped me tremendously! I would never tell a parent to go no contact it is extremely painful, but his decision to stop talking to me gave me a chance to clear my head. He has started contacting me again, every now and then he drifts away for a few months. He asked me to join twitter and I said no thanks. He can call collect but he prefers emails. He got a job and moved to Denver, do ya think it had anything to do with the laws lol!!!! He says he is working, I'm not sure he is not homeless and panhandling. Girlie came after him with a knife and he called police and she was in detox for three months. She is now with him in Denver. I had to call police to stop her harassment, but it did stop. This is the life he wants and it's his to live, just don't ask me to donate the money to support it. It broke my heart, I had to mourn as in a death, it is in a sense. I now accept it as out of my hands and really don't discuss it with family or friends. There is certainly nothing wrong with taking a time out FOR YOU, in my case, difficult child finally understood I expected him to take responsibility for his life, he is an adult. There is no way I would ever go back to the relationship we had. (((blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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