T moved to live with her grands in order to avoid me. Essentially she made new friends that were good enough for a while. Within a year she had failed out of college, moved in with a boy, broken up with the boy, and mentally everything was the same.
I got lucky! It could have been a lot worse. She wasn't really in a bad crowd before she left and didn't join one when she got there. She met the man of her dreams and moved in with him during Christmas break. Two months later they broke up and she moved home. Mentally not much has changed. We still fight and she is still difficult. She also still has no intention of changing because in her mind she is not the issue.
Reality is she didn't really help or hurt herself. So in the long run I am just greatful I'm not a grandmother or an in-law and that she has nothing holding her back from whatever she wants in the future.
Once again compared to most I got really lucky!
