LMS, I am sorry. This is so hard to deal with.
You might tell him you will take out a restraining order against him if he comes to your house without an invitation. I told my difficult child that the last time he got out of jail and he has abided by that boundary since that time.
I was sick and tired of him getting out of jail, walking to my house, and banging on the door at 3 a.m. He had done that multiple times. I also didn't want him just "showing up" at my house.
It was surprisingly easy to say those words at that point.
You can't have a real relationship with an active addict. It is impossible. Figure out what you want, and then put plans in place to make that happen.
You don't have to allow him to come to your house.
You don't have to give him any money.
You don't have to see him at all for a long while.
You have choices.
You deserve peace. And don't worry, if he is this outrageous already, he will be back in jail soon. I always feel better when my difficult child is in jail. Today, he is out, homeless, but is respecting my wishes. That is progress.
Warm hugs. Keep us posted.
