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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 292872" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds like he thinks he has you right where he wants you, doing whatever he wants because you don't want to deal with his childish temper. I am another one voting for not having her sleep with him at your home. It isn't about what he does when he is alone with her. It is about respect. Nothing else. </p><p></p><p>I don't buy the "her parents let me sleep with her" line. If it is true, so what? If it isn't true, so what? If her parents lined up some coke on the coffee table and gave it to difficult child and girlfriend, would you? Just because the other parents don't mind or don't want to get into a fight about it, doesn't mean you need to let it happen. </p><p></p><p>Part of it is about setting the standard for all of your kids, because it is very true that the other kids will expect to have their dates spend the night in their room, and part of it is about demanding respect in your home.</p><p></p><p>I don't buy the "going to the therapist" and being in a program as reasons to not be working. If he has time to laze around the house making messes, then he needs to go to work. Or do volunteer work. Or find some other way to be a productive human being. How will he EVER be able to stay sober/clean with that much time on his hands? The old phrase "idle hands are the devils work" or however it is phrased has lasted through the centuries because it is true. If you don't have something productive to do then you end up in trouble. </p><p></p><p>Sending gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 292872, member: 1233"] It sounds like he thinks he has you right where he wants you, doing whatever he wants because you don't want to deal with his childish temper. I am another one voting for not having her sleep with him at your home. It isn't about what he does when he is alone with her. It is about respect. Nothing else. I don't buy the "her parents let me sleep with her" line. If it is true, so what? If it isn't true, so what? If her parents lined up some coke on the coffee table and gave it to difficult child and girlfriend, would you? Just because the other parents don't mind or don't want to get into a fight about it, doesn't mean you need to let it happen. Part of it is about setting the standard for all of your kids, because it is very true that the other kids will expect to have their dates spend the night in their room, and part of it is about demanding respect in your home. I don't buy the "going to the therapist" and being in a program as reasons to not be working. If he has time to laze around the house making messes, then he needs to go to work. Or do volunteer work. Or find some other way to be a productive human being. How will he EVER be able to stay sober/clean with that much time on his hands? The old phrase "idle hands are the devils work" or however it is phrased has lasted through the centuries because it is true. If you don't have something productive to do then you end up in trouble. Sending gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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