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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 292917" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>Missy, since you're ready to put your thoughts in writing, this might be the perfect time to create an "If you want to live here" contract. </p><p> </p><p>You have a couple of choices if you go this route:</p><p> </p><p>You can make an all or nothing contract where he gets the boot if he breaks any of the rules.</p><p> </p><p>or</p><p> </p><p>You can create a contract that is basically a list of requirements and the consequence if he breaks that requirement. The good part of going this route is that the behavior and the consequence are in black and white so emotions don't muddy the waters and there's no question in anyones' mind what will happen.</p><p> </p><p>When we had contracts we asked for Rob's input in making it. His suggested consequences tended to be tougher than ours. Since he had input in the consequences, if/when he broke a rule we could point out that he played a role in establishing what was and wasn't acceptable.</p><p> </p><p>If you go the contract route, be sure to post it publicly for everyone to see (and keep copies in case the posted one gets ripped up in a rage).</p><p> </p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 292917, member: 29"] Missy, since you're ready to put your thoughts in writing, this might be the perfect time to create an "If you want to live here" contract. You have a couple of choices if you go this route: You can make an all or nothing contract where he gets the boot if he breaks any of the rules. or You can create a contract that is basically a list of requirements and the consequence if he breaks that requirement. The good part of going this route is that the behavior and the consequence are in black and white so emotions don't muddy the waters and there's no question in anyones' mind what will happen. When we had contracts we asked for Rob's input in making it. His suggested consequences tended to be tougher than ours. Since he had input in the consequences, if/when he broke a rule we could point out that he played a role in establishing what was and wasn't acceptable. If you go the contract route, be sure to post it publicly for everyone to see (and keep copies in case the posted one gets ripped up in a rage). Suz [/QUOTE]
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