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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 349126" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Well, I can't see how anything could be snuck in and gotten to a ward in that facility without being caught, unless it is by staff. No packages are allowed to be sent- only letters, cards, and photos, which must be mailed in and are screened. NOTHING can be taken in by a parent at visitation and parents are frisked before entering and pockets checked. Wards are strip searched after visitation. The ONLY time a ward is outside the fence is with staff, shackled, to go to an energency medication appointment or court. difficult child told me "there are some staff there that still do drugs and didn't quit like most people do when they get into their 20's". Uhmmm....</p><p></p><p>A parent risks a legal charge, as does the juvenile, and the parent risks loss of custody and right to ever visit again. We know there are instances of staff having sex with juveniles because they have been caught and there has recently been a published report from one of the commissions.</p><p></p><p>I'm going to make myself quit thinking about it though, since difficult child is out now and we can only pick up from where we are now so I need to be focused on what will help him most from here. As far as password on the computer- I'm not sure it's possible anymore due to what I had to do to go around his methods of going around mine in the past but I will try. I'm hoping to keep us both thinking more about efforts to trust instead of this turning into a challenge or battle of wills again though. But, I do realize that for a teen boy coming out of a year long incarceration, temptations and "plans" could be a lot worse than computer usage and smoking cigs. That's why I'm thinking it's the habit of sneaking and feeling he can get by with stuff that's actually the worst part because that is what is likely to lead to worse stuff later on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 349126, member: 3699"] Well, I can't see how anything could be snuck in and gotten to a ward in that facility without being caught, unless it is by staff. No packages are allowed to be sent- only letters, cards, and photos, which must be mailed in and are screened. NOTHING can be taken in by a parent at visitation and parents are frisked before entering and pockets checked. Wards are strip searched after visitation. The ONLY time a ward is outside the fence is with staff, shackled, to go to an energency medication appointment or court. difficult child told me "there are some staff there that still do drugs and didn't quit like most people do when they get into their 20's". Uhmmm.... A parent risks a legal charge, as does the juvenile, and the parent risks loss of custody and right to ever visit again. We know there are instances of staff having sex with juveniles because they have been caught and there has recently been a published report from one of the commissions. I'm going to make myself quit thinking about it though, since difficult child is out now and we can only pick up from where we are now so I need to be focused on what will help him most from here. As far as password on the computer- I'm not sure it's possible anymore due to what I had to do to go around his methods of going around mine in the past but I will try. I'm hoping to keep us both thinking more about efforts to trust instead of this turning into a challenge or battle of wills again though. But, I do realize that for a teen boy coming out of a year long incarceration, temptations and "plans" could be a lot worse than computer usage and smoking cigs. That's why I'm thinking it's the habit of sneaking and feeling he can get by with stuff that's actually the worst part because that is what is likely to lead to worse stuff later on. [/QUOTE]
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