SoC ---- Thank you so much for the wise words you shared! Hope so, seems so, striving so! 
I tell ya what, though, this strong boundaries business takes a lot of practice! But the more I practice it (regardless of what difficult child does), the more confident I grow in my own ability to do it. And, honestly, the less fight difficult child puts up about it. And, if he does, well, he knows I am all too happy to tell him to leave, hang up on him, or call 911. Done 'em all -- several times.
But rehab does seem to be agreeing with him (knock wood it continues well). We are a combo of flabbergasted, vigilant, and grateful all in the same breath.
I strive in ALL things, to let gratitude take the lead. Some days, I'm not so good at it. But ALL days, I strive. Today, however, it's pretty easy to be grateful!
So, I'm just takin' that ball and runnin' with it, baaaaabyyyyyy!
