Shari,
I'm glad that husband stepped in for you.
This is a time of very high emotions & grief; difficult child is most likely just as sad & doesn't have a clue on how to "negotiate" all these sad emotions he's feeling. Then he sees that mom is sad.
It's okay for difficult child to see your grief. He needs to learn empathy - this will also be a time for your husband to help your difficult child navigate the same emotions & how to share grief & sadness appropriately.
Yesterday is over - today is a new day.
