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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 343033" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We have an ad on Aussie TV for a brand of saucepans. The ad shows a very well-coiffed and expensively made up older woman cooking on this brand of pan. It's clearly set in the future because of the way the pots are apparently suspended invisibly over the cooktop, and her hand waving over the controls to switch the cooktop on. You see this woman who was clearly beautiful and elegant in her day and still wearing a linen dress with pearls, mentally congratulating herself on buying a set of the best pots in her youth, pots which are as good today as the day she bought them. "Unlike other lifetime choices made, so long ago..." as the camera pans down to a faded Celtic tattoo 'bracelet' around her upper arm, complete with saggy skin.</p><p></p><p>A brilliant ad. by the way, we bought the same brand saucepans.</p><p></p><p>I'd be doing two things:</p><p></p><p>1) no tattoos until you no longer have to answer to me. That would be 18 years old here.</p><p></p><p>2) Here's a henna kit, honey. Learn how to do what you want with that. For what you want to do, this should be a good substitute.</p><p></p><p>This is an attempt at self-expression, and that is fair enough in my book. However, she is under-age (and still will be at 16) and therefore needs to be protected from the lifelong consequences of decisions she cannot legally make on her own behalf. Even piercings can grow over; but tattoos will never go away.</p><p></p><p>The thing is - once she actually has the permanent markings in place, she has to look at them and live with them. If she really does want them, then she will merely henna them and keep them touched up as they fade. If she does this consistently until she turns 18, you can consider that she is definitely committed to it. If not - then isn't it good she has the freedom to change her mind? </p><p></p><p>Mind you, I'm possibly going to get a tattoo once I'm over my radiotherapy. I have to have a dot tattooed onto my breast for radiotherapy, so husband suggested that I get it made into something after it's all done. I'm thinking about it, I'm going to drop in on a tattoo parlour next chance and talk to them about it.</p><p></p><p>But then, I'm well and truly over 18!</p><p></p><p>However, I will be trying henna first. If I have to have chemo and lose my hair, I'll probably get easy child 2/difficult child 2 to decorate my scalp with henna. She's quite good with henna. I've seen her do her hands, Indian-style.</p><p></p><p>Possibly for your daughter, you helping her with henna could be a surprising compromise. But far from helping her take another step towards getting a tattoo, it could be enough for her to do it and also help her realise that perhaps it's not a permanent look she wants after all.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 343033, member: 1991"] We have an ad on Aussie TV for a brand of saucepans. The ad shows a very well-coiffed and expensively made up older woman cooking on this brand of pan. It's clearly set in the future because of the way the pots are apparently suspended invisibly over the cooktop, and her hand waving over the controls to switch the cooktop on. You see this woman who was clearly beautiful and elegant in her day and still wearing a linen dress with pearls, mentally congratulating herself on buying a set of the best pots in her youth, pots which are as good today as the day she bought them. "Unlike other lifetime choices made, so long ago..." as the camera pans down to a faded Celtic tattoo 'bracelet' around her upper arm, complete with saggy skin. A brilliant ad. by the way, we bought the same brand saucepans. I'd be doing two things: 1) no tattoos until you no longer have to answer to me. That would be 18 years old here. 2) Here's a henna kit, honey. Learn how to do what you want with that. For what you want to do, this should be a good substitute. This is an attempt at self-expression, and that is fair enough in my book. However, she is under-age (and still will be at 16) and therefore needs to be protected from the lifelong consequences of decisions she cannot legally make on her own behalf. Even piercings can grow over; but tattoos will never go away. The thing is - once she actually has the permanent markings in place, she has to look at them and live with them. If she really does want them, then she will merely henna them and keep them touched up as they fade. If she does this consistently until she turns 18, you can consider that she is definitely committed to it. If not - then isn't it good she has the freedom to change her mind? Mind you, I'm possibly going to get a tattoo once I'm over my radiotherapy. I have to have a dot tattooed onto my breast for radiotherapy, so husband suggested that I get it made into something after it's all done. I'm thinking about it, I'm going to drop in on a tattoo parlour next chance and talk to them about it. But then, I'm well and truly over 18! However, I will be trying henna first. If I have to have chemo and lose my hair, I'll probably get easy child 2/difficult child 2 to decorate my scalp with henna. She's quite good with henna. I've seen her do her hands, Indian-style. Possibly for your daughter, you helping her with henna could be a surprising compromise. But far from helping her take another step towards getting a tattoo, it could be enough for her to do it and also help her realise that perhaps it's not a permanent look she wants after all. Marg [/QUOTE]
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