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<blockquote data-quote="brandyf" data-source="post: 93174" data-attributes="member: 4110"><p>I am right here with you. My school has trouble "buying" the ODD diagnosis and just thinks he is lacking discipline. my boy has been suspended once, had ISS twice this year (which is abuse in my book...for a 6-year old), not to mention the 10 times i have had to go get him and the 500 calls. we have only been in school 2 months this year so far, and he is only a first grader.</p><p></p><p>this is a copied text from another website i found. thought i would share it. this information has been said many times on this board, tho sometimes the technical language is hard Occupational Therapist (OT) understand if your not a professional in the school system...</p><p></p><p>furthermore, it has taken me a while to come to terms with making enemies with the school, but really when i sit back and really look at what is going on....we are already enemies. i figured since we pay over 300 a month for our AWESOME (NOT) blue cross/blue choice insurance i would take care of teh evaluations personally....until they decided there is no coverage for those tests.... so here i am waiting for the school board to get the ball rolling and pick up the tab.</p><p></p><p> It still amazes me the number of individuals, particularly educational "professionals" who do not want to assist parents in utilizing the mechanisms already in place for the purpose of assisting children with difficulties to learn. If your child is exhibiting behaviors that interfere with his ability to learn in the regular classroom setting, you may submit a written request to the building principal to have your son evaluated to see if he qualifies for I.D.E.A. (special education services), or A.D.A. services under Section 504. Specifically, when you meet to discuss the purpose and specifics of the evaluation, you should request a psychological evaluation for determining or eliminating possible bio-neurological and/or behavioral disorders such as ADD/ADHD, ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), bi-polar disorder, and personality disorders. Document all requests, take an advocate or tape recorder to all meetings with school officials, and do not let them put a guilt-trip on you about placing negative labels on your child. The sooner you determine or eliminate these possibilities, the quicker you, the school, and your child can begin addressing the problem. It is the school's legal obligation to pay for these evaluations if you play the game by the rules and jump through all the hoops. In other words, all requests must be in writing (keep a copy), and you must ask for psychological and behavioral evaluations. If you disagree with the findings of the evaluation., you have the right to ask for independent evaluation at the schools expense. P.S. Start growing some thick skin because it is an uphill battle to advocate for the needs of your child. I know, I've been through it with two ADD sons who are now grown. DO NOT GIVE UP FINDING ANSWERS THAT WILL ASSIST YOUR CHILD IN LEARNING. There are many helpful websites that will help you educate yourself on the maze that is in front of you and your child. Good luck.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>keep you head up, its real hard sending your child to a school that you are uncomfortable with.</p><p></p><p>here is another statement i found on this board a while back...i like to read it every now adn then.</p><p></p><p>"Chronic school failure demoralizes children, can cause loss of status and rejection by peers, destroys self-esteem, and undermines feelings of competence. As a result, it can undermine a child's attachment to teachers, parents, school, and the values they promote. It also generates hopelessness and helplessness. Children cease to believe that their efforts make a difference in outcomes...."</p><p></p><p>"Although schools cannot change underlying impairments that affect children's cognitive, social, and emotional performance, they can help prevent impairments from causing academic and social failure by providing appropriate accommodations and early intervention."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="brandyf, post: 93174, member: 4110"] I am right here with you. My school has trouble "buying" the ODD diagnosis and just thinks he is lacking discipline. my boy has been suspended once, had ISS twice this year (which is abuse in my book...for a 6-year old), not to mention the 10 times i have had to go get him and the 500 calls. we have only been in school 2 months this year so far, and he is only a first grader. this is a copied text from another website i found. thought i would share it. this information has been said many times on this board, tho sometimes the technical language is hard Occupational Therapist (OT) understand if your not a professional in the school system... furthermore, it has taken me a while to come to terms with making enemies with the school, but really when i sit back and really look at what is going on....we are already enemies. i figured since we pay over 300 a month for our AWESOME (NOT) blue cross/blue choice insurance i would take care of teh evaluations personally....until they decided there is no coverage for those tests.... so here i am waiting for the school board to get the ball rolling and pick up the tab. It still amazes me the number of individuals, particularly educational "professionals" who do not want to assist parents in utilizing the mechanisms already in place for the purpose of assisting children with difficulties to learn. If your child is exhibiting behaviors that interfere with his ability to learn in the regular classroom setting, you may submit a written request to the building principal to have your son evaluated to see if he qualifies for I.D.E.A. (special education services), or A.D.A. services under Section 504. Specifically, when you meet to discuss the purpose and specifics of the evaluation, you should request a psychological evaluation for determining or eliminating possible bio-neurological and/or behavioral disorders such as ADD/ADHD, ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), bi-polar disorder, and personality disorders. Document all requests, take an advocate or tape recorder to all meetings with school officials, and do not let them put a guilt-trip on you about placing negative labels on your child. The sooner you determine or eliminate these possibilities, the quicker you, the school, and your child can begin addressing the problem. It is the school's legal obligation to pay for these evaluations if you play the game by the rules and jump through all the hoops. In other words, all requests must be in writing (keep a copy), and you must ask for psychological and behavioral evaluations. If you disagree with the findings of the evaluation., you have the right to ask for independent evaluation at the schools expense. P.S. Start growing some thick skin because it is an uphill battle to advocate for the needs of your child. I know, I've been through it with two ADD sons who are now grown. DO NOT GIVE UP FINDING ANSWERS THAT WILL ASSIST YOUR CHILD IN LEARNING. There are many helpful websites that will help you educate yourself on the maze that is in front of you and your child. Good luck. keep you head up, its real hard sending your child to a school that you are uncomfortable with. here is another statement i found on this board a while back...i like to read it every now adn then. "Chronic school failure demoralizes children, can cause loss of status and rejection by peers, destroys self-esteem, and undermines feelings of competence. As a result, it can undermine a child's attachment to teachers, parents, school, and the values they promote. It also generates hopelessness and helplessness. Children cease to believe that their efforts make a difference in outcomes...." "Although schools cannot change underlying impairments that affect children's cognitive, social, and emotional performance, they can help prevent impairments from causing academic and social failure by providing appropriate accommodations and early intervention." [/QUOTE]
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