Been there. difficult child struggled..no, WE struggled to get him to do homework. The argument/meltdown was longer than the actual assignment. He started telling me
"I don't know how, so I'll get help tomorrow". One day when he told me that I had a friend over, he looked at his book and said, "wow - I don't know how to do that". difficult child piped up and said, "I'll show you!" And he did.
We struggled with this through middle school. Fighting, arguing about homework. Then finding out he hasn't turned anything in. Even when he DID do it. Other times he never even bothered. Assignment notebook has been blank for years. Notebooks have been blank for years. One good counselor friend told me to pick my battles. He is NOT going to take notes. HIS problem.
Well, this is his first year of High School. We sent him to a small High School. Technical school and is very tough. He is taking a learning stratagies class, which teaches him how to organize (helps him), also helps him take notes. Also gives him a chance to start homework. He has 4 90 minute classes.
This year - AS a FRESHMAN - he is doing work. I have never ever seen him try and care so much about his grade. He spends about 4 hours a night doing work. I feel so bad because it is so hard. I read through a chapter to help him study. I spent hours and hours reading this and have absolutely NO idea what it was about. This was his honors biotech. I usually expect A's, but he was estatic with a C on that chapter test. It was totally insane.
This is the first year he actually did work without a fight. We DO fight, but it is me. I am constantly on him every minute. I need to back off and allow him some "me" time without thinking about school. I hope I am not jynxing things here. Good Luck.
