I probably would try to see a therapist with hubby to figure this out if it were me...to try to have steps or a plan of some type would make ME feel better.
My son never was fond of therapy and would tell them what they wanted to hear for the most part. He didn't change one iota until he matured a bit and was in a strict, faith based environment.
My husband not fond of therapy but he was pretty good when we were going through our thing, listening to what I'd find out about what we needed to do to handle our son. It was really a crap shoot but we did need to show a united front with him. Of course your situation not the same. I would be afraid as well.
