Update: I noticed more self injury yesterday, more bandaid wrappers in trash .My new thing is to call it out rather than let the secrecy exist.
I waited until today. She has a bandaid on upper arm, and I asked what happened . Daughter says she doesn't want to talk about it and grins in this embarrassed way. I said "I know it's hard to talk about". I tell her I want her to get help, that she doesn't need to do this alone . That we can go to the first appointment together, that we could go as a family .She says "No way do I want to go as a family. And I know you told Dad!"
I tell her she had said she wanted to stop, and that self-injury gets worse if we continue to do it . That it has been a year now of more severe cutting (she used to stick a needle under her fingernails starting at age 12) . That I would like her to have a plan on someone to contact before she self injures.
She says this is nothing what she really wants to do is rip into herself .
She doesn't want to take about it . She needs to end the conversation. Her day is hard enough as it is (I made her clean the bathroom and her room - she had 4 days to do it and still didn't get it done by last night).
I can't get through to her .This grin she puts on is like a game she is playing .with her body, with her life. How do I get her into therapy?
