What about the "fear of perceived and real abandonment" that is the Borderline (BPD)'s classic symptom? Wouldn't cutting off be abandonment they create? The way my daughter has held on to her grudge against her Dad and is now starting on me is her abandoning us, and she doesnt seem scared of that abandonment. She seems to rage mostly inwardly, but verbally is saying stuff that sounds very angry and ragy.
Her illness started with depression and anxiety, and it is getting worse . Self harm now. A beautiful girl, former gymnast and dancer, very intelligent, and used to be my joy and my sunshine. She started changing age 16 and it has gotten worse every year . I miss who she used to be. She is beyond recognition. Plus 80 pounds, scars all over her, and constant restlessness and dissatisfaction with everything. I feel such grief.
