All above is good advice. We are fortunate to have a barn which is where our son's "extra" stuff is. We packed it all in boxes, labeled them, protected them moderately from raccoons & the boxes are sitting on pallets in the barn until he decides what he wants with the stuff. My prediction is we will throw most of it out. He is living on his own, he will never live here again, it's just too difficult. He is a pack rat and has managed to be "gifted" will all sorts of furniture he doesn't need for his apartment.
Detaching is very hard but necessary for your peace of mind. It doesn't mean cutting them out of your life, just cutting away that huge emotional burden they can be on you.
