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<blockquote data-quote="mattsmom27" data-source="post: 37098" data-attributes="member: 50"><p>I think it is all too common for siblings to have issues due to our difficult child's. Before difficult child spent over a year living out of our home, easy child was very affected. Luckily she didn't pick up his behaviours and become out of control. Unfortunatly she became very shy and quiet and timid. I hated watching her grow up becoming a shell of the little girl I knew she must be inside. Things changed so dramatically after difficult child moved out of the house, that I had many crying breakdowns watching her blossom and come out of that shell. I don't think I saw how bad the effect on easy child was until she became used to difficult child not being in the home and felt free to be herself. </p><p>When difficult child moved home I made it very clear to him how badly easy child was affected and how well she did away from his behaviours and the chaos in the house and I also made it very clear it would never be acceptable again. easy child doesn't deserve to suffer for his outbursts etc. In the 5-6 months since difficult child has come home, him and easy child get along well. Due to age difference they don't interact alot, but they do get along and he acts loving towards her. It helps that he has his behaviours in check. I no longer have to watch easy child disappear into a shell. </p><p>I dont know what easy child would be like had difficult child not moved out, or had he moved home and reverted back to his old ways. I never did find out the best way to minimize impact to easy child, although I tried many things.</p><p>I understand your concern and you are not alone in this dilemma.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mattsmom27, post: 37098, member: 50"] I think it is all too common for siblings to have issues due to our difficult child's. Before difficult child spent over a year living out of our home, easy child was very affected. Luckily she didn't pick up his behaviours and become out of control. Unfortunatly she became very shy and quiet and timid. I hated watching her grow up becoming a shell of the little girl I knew she must be inside. Things changed so dramatically after difficult child moved out of the house, that I had many crying breakdowns watching her blossom and come out of that shell. I don't think I saw how bad the effect on easy child was until she became used to difficult child not being in the home and felt free to be herself. When difficult child moved home I made it very clear to him how badly easy child was affected and how well she did away from his behaviours and the chaos in the house and I also made it very clear it would never be acceptable again. easy child doesn't deserve to suffer for his outbursts etc. In the 5-6 months since difficult child has come home, him and easy child get along well. Due to age difference they don't interact alot, but they do get along and he acts loving towards her. It helps that he has his behaviours in check. I no longer have to watch easy child disappear into a shell. I dont know what easy child would be like had difficult child not moved out, or had he moved home and reverted back to his old ways. I never did find out the best way to minimize impact to easy child, although I tried many things. I understand your concern and you are not alone in this dilemma. [/QUOTE]
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