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difficult child's joblessness is getting to me. Not sure where to go from here
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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 551419" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>You're both right, of course. Crazy, I honestly thought (because I was not thinking like a difficult child) that having NO MONEY would be consequence enough. But it isn't. I would go stark, raving mad if I was a 21 year old living with my work-at-home mom, not being able to go out, etc. But she is fine. She's content to sit on the internet all night. She's content to go to her dad's when she gets tired of not having cable, she's content to sit ina chair and read a book and text with her boyfriend. At 21, I was on my own living 3,000 miles away from my parents, working and going to school. My difficult child doesn't think like this and I have to bang my head against a wall from time to time in order for that to sink in.</p><p></p><p>I do go to FA (can't afford a therapist for myself, and sending her to one is way more of a priority to me ....my choice, I know). I have a ton of friends and a great family. I work part time from my home doing work I love, I take one class per semester at the local community college (I'm taking negotiating this semester and yes, you are allowed to lol!). I worry about her way to much, but I do have a good life.</p><p></p><p>We are - for better or worse - products of our upbringing. My parents would never in a million years have kicked any of us out. Of course, my sisters were PCs to the max and I was a handful, but not a difficult child. Still, it's hard to get my head into the mindset of tossing her ... at this point. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes I feel so lost in the world of difficult children because - aside from you and the great folks at FA - I have no point of reference. I may as well be on Mars.</p><p></p><p>And, CJane, you are absolutely right about the work. I did tell her yesterday to go to the local temp agency. That is the kind of work they match people up with. I've also given her a lot of reinforcment about he work she is doing around here. </p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 551419, member: 9175"] You're both right, of course. Crazy, I honestly thought (because I was not thinking like a difficult child) that having NO MONEY would be consequence enough. But it isn't. I would go stark, raving mad if I was a 21 year old living with my work-at-home mom, not being able to go out, etc. But she is fine. She's content to sit on the internet all night. She's content to go to her dad's when she gets tired of not having cable, she's content to sit ina chair and read a book and text with her boyfriend. At 21, I was on my own living 3,000 miles away from my parents, working and going to school. My difficult child doesn't think like this and I have to bang my head against a wall from time to time in order for that to sink in. I do go to FA (can't afford a therapist for myself, and sending her to one is way more of a priority to me ....my choice, I know). I have a ton of friends and a great family. I work part time from my home doing work I love, I take one class per semester at the local community college (I'm taking negotiating this semester and yes, you are allowed to lol!). I worry about her way to much, but I do have a good life. We are - for better or worse - products of our upbringing. My parents would never in a million years have kicked any of us out. Of course, my sisters were PCs to the max and I was a handful, but not a difficult child. Still, it's hard to get my head into the mindset of tossing her ... at this point. Sometimes I feel so lost in the world of difficult children because - aside from you and the great folks at FA - I have no point of reference. I may as well be on Mars. And, CJane, you are absolutely right about the work. I did tell her yesterday to go to the local temp agency. That is the kind of work they match people up with. I've also given her a lot of reinforcment about he work she is doing around here. Dash [/QUOTE]
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