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difficult child's joblessness is getting to me. Not sure where to go from here
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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 551555" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>So much to think about. As Crazy has wisely pointed out,I do need to change my expectations re: her thinking. It is mysterious, no doubt. </p><p></p><p></p><p>It's strange with her having zero motivation because it's not like I can suggest things like the military, applying for services, eetc. I mean, I can suggest them and listen to her entusiastically tell me YES! she will follow up, and then watch as she does absolutely nothing.</p><p></p><p>She worked extra hard around here yesterday. It's really kind of pathetic - it's as though she's saying "See how good I'm being", aso though she was a nine year old or something. The fact is that we're running out of projects and there are simply not enough day-to-day things to keep us both busy. </p><p></p><p>I allow her two days off per week (just like a regular work week) and she's taken today off. Tomorrow, I am going to tell her she needs to be OUT of the house actively looking for a job from 9:00 a.m. until 2:00 After that, she can come home and cut the grass. </p><p></p><p>She says she's applied onine (her computer history says she hasn't since July). She's also made claims of applying here or there . I caught her in a lie about that right after she'd lost her cell phone. She happliy reported applying to three restaurants in Akron. That's nice , I said. Pause. Pause. What did you give them for a phone number/ Sputter, sputter. "I forgot". You forgot you had no cell phone? "Yes, I completely forgot and gave them that number. Right. </p><p></p><p>anyway, I know she might just go to DEX's and watch Lost all day, but at least I'll be reinforcing the statement that she needs to be working on this.</p><p></p><p>Worst part of the whole thing is that her boyfriend just got a job in a retail stockroom. He is 21. First job ever. He doesn't pay rent so she's no doubt secure in the fact that he'll buy gas, cigarattes and beer for her. </p><p></p><p>That kind of thinking just blows me away. Wish me luck, guys and thanks for all your support andhelp.</p><p></p><p>(ps. about applying for services....she doens't have a diagnosis yet. Last diagnosis she had was ADHD at age 14. I know there's more....)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 551555, member: 9175"] So much to think about. As Crazy has wisely pointed out,I do need to change my expectations re: her thinking. It is mysterious, no doubt. It's strange with her having zero motivation because it's not like I can suggest things like the military, applying for services, eetc. I mean, I can suggest them and listen to her entusiastically tell me YES! she will follow up, and then watch as she does absolutely nothing. She worked extra hard around here yesterday. It's really kind of pathetic - it's as though she's saying "See how good I'm being", aso though she was a nine year old or something. The fact is that we're running out of projects and there are simply not enough day-to-day things to keep us both busy. I allow her two days off per week (just like a regular work week) and she's taken today off. Tomorrow, I am going to tell her she needs to be OUT of the house actively looking for a job from 9:00 a.m. until 2:00 After that, she can come home and cut the grass. She says she's applied onine (her computer history says she hasn't since July). She's also made claims of applying here or there . I caught her in a lie about that right after she'd lost her cell phone. She happliy reported applying to three restaurants in Akron. That's nice , I said. Pause. Pause. What did you give them for a phone number/ Sputter, sputter. "I forgot". You forgot you had no cell phone? "Yes, I completely forgot and gave them that number. Right. anyway, I know she might just go to DEX's and watch Lost all day, but at least I'll be reinforcing the statement that she needs to be working on this. Worst part of the whole thing is that her boyfriend just got a job in a retail stockroom. He is 21. First job ever. He doesn't pay rent so she's no doubt secure in the fact that he'll buy gas, cigarattes and beer for her. That kind of thinking just blows me away. Wish me luck, guys and thanks for all your support andhelp. (ps. about applying for services....she doens't have a diagnosis yet. Last diagnosis she had was ADHD at age 14. I know there's more....) [/QUOTE]
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