wow, he has some serious problems. I'm sorry. When a child shows no remorse, perhaps that is the scariest part of all this. I do have a question: Was his very early life chaotic in any way? Was his birth hard, was he sick, did he have surgery, is he adopted, was he transferred from one caregiver to another? Is your husband is biological father and, if not, is his biological father similar to him? Is sister badly affected by this? How does she deal with it?
Although you say he is not using drugs now, be careful...he has the type of personality that could be attracted to menacing kids and could do this later on. Stealing is a huge red flag for drugs...so are lowering grades and hanging around with kids who are not particularly the best. I hope he does not go there.
One last question: How was his early development?
We are all here to support you through these difficult times. We have all gone through "stuff" or are going through it now.
