Oh yes, I have been dealing with this every day. One thing I try is to have her repay the money. She gets an allowance and I will take some off each day until it is repaid. This is also a brameter of how unstable she is. Like last night she got into the car and took all of her medications: it is hostage taking behavior to hold ransom. We are talking months of medications,so offered her cash to get them back. It worked. There is tons of power and control stuff. It is exhasuting. We have also found that hard as we try to secure stuff she somehow repeatedly outsmarts us. This week she has hacked into electronic accounts and so far we have foiled every attempt but it is extremely time consuming. What Star shared about locking stuff down is important and we do our best but I live in a home not a jail or treatment center. I also try to reinforce give money for stuff like going to meetings, school, p-doctor and t-doctor and give coupons (not cash) for fun activites like moives and bowling. Detatchment is a huge tool. Honesty is so important for me but I do beleive this is part of her illnesses. P-doctor says it is largely her conduct disorder. Safety plan and protecting self I find and acceptance. No way can I have any cash sitting out,it is the impulsivity,esp. when she is not stable. I am not even carrying around one dollar bills for my Al-anon meetings. I am now sleeping on my money, cell phones. We are locking doors at all times. I do beleive it is illness and not badness. Do my bestto rienforce the pistive and prosocial one day at a time. Never give up hope. I try to celebrate the baby steps and stqay postive through the frustarting behavior.
