Hi there, sorry for you and really sorry for difficult child... sounds like he is a hurt kid. I agree with MWM, sounds like attachment problems are a big part of the mix. From the being passed around, to having a sib who needed extra attention, to mental health issues from mom that may have made her not be able to respond to her baby appropriately for the first few years, and dad being deployed. radkids.org is another site as well as attach-china.org which is not only for kids who are adopted...just started that way.
Glad you found this group. Sounds like you will be able to relate to us as much as we can to you! Hope you can find some answers and support.
