@ Methusela - your first post def describes our difficult child to a tee - no guilt remorse, and will talk sweet nothings to you as if nothing ever happened. Your second post in relation to what JJJ posted, rings true for our difficult child as well - I can't tell you how many school try the whole prizes for rewards for good behavior thing until they finally get what we tell them - doesn't work with him - he is incredibly smart in that way that he will do wha tyou want at that moment to get the little trinket, come home and then either throw it away or put it in the giveaway bag (for salvation army or goodwilll) and then return to bad behavior the next day.
@ MWM, thanks for the info - I definitely know the sites, and have pretty thorough knowledge of attachment issues through my work - I work in the "system" and unfortunately know all to well through our foster kids and abuse/neglect kids how difficult attachment issues are. THankfully (or not) due to this knowledge I have raised the question with difficult child's therapists and husband that he may have attachment issues on top of his bipolar.
@Buddy - thanks for the welcome, although I have technically been here since 2007, but just do not get the time/opportunity to post and/or respond as much as I would like due to a very busy household! 
