I think low contact is a good idea
The stuff we have discussed recently ( we usually don't talk much , just a quick chat after our contact centre visit once a week , I walk to the station , she drives home ) is mainly about Christmas and her plan to bring him home..
I DO have concerns over that as it is super early
At least once again I have guaged where she is at ie no real change
I cannot protect my GS as such but if I think she is b*llsh*tting SS I will tell them , if I suspect she is still drinking I will tell them , if I have any concerns about him being returned I will tell them , this is all I can do , but it is protecting him in my own way as if ALL they had to go on is what she says it would be a completely different picture to reality
''I will lie to get my son back'' ( these are the words which say it all )
Well ''I will tell the TRUTH to PROTECT my GS''
I am not going to see things and then not TELL them , they need to guage the situation too! And not with my daughter's 'version' but the TRUTH
If I say my daughter is doing fine , def not drinking any more , laying off the cannabis , doing well enough to have her son back with no problems , everything hunkey dorey I will NOT be doing the best for my GS
I don't want to control my daughter but yes I DO want to protect my GS in any way I CAN
SS ASK me if she is still drinking , she says no and if she is I say yes! There is hell to pay after but I don't care
I see me telling the truth and being honest about my concerns as protecting my GS in the little way I can which may not be so little if it means protecting him from a Mum who lies about her drinking and therefore subjects him to any harm
She is an adult , she can go off and do what she wants
It is ONLY because she says my GS will be back in her care in 11 days time which is why I have my concerns as the day is dawning and am exploring my feelings about the situation as well as finding out where she is at
Where she is at will have a direct impact on my GS if he is returned to her
If she had no plans to take him I honestly do not believe we would be having these conversations , it is only because she is planning on taking him in 11 days time and I always will do what I CAN to protect my GS , if I can't , fine , will have to accept that , but if I CAN I will x
( I do do loads for myself now , am enjoying most days it is ONLY because this ''taking my GS home in 11 days time'' is hanging over my head with no certainty either way as whether it is even going to HAPPEN or not that is difficult , once SS say either yay or nay I will feel BETTER just KNOWING , but I want them to know the FACTS first , any facts that I do know as my daughter will simply lie to them about everything , but we need to know what is going to happen soon ie Christmas with him with me supervising or Christmas without him , sad , but knowing he is SAFE at least! )
