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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 695898" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Hi and welcome, Maria!</p><p></p><p>We can't change the past, and we can't change how others feel about it. We can only move forward, in the best way we know how.</p><p></p><p>You know the old adage--once bitten, twice shy? It takes a while to get that trust back, and you can't rush the process. You have no choice but to let everyone process this on their own timetable.</p><p></p><p>It would go a long way toward the process of healing if you would commit to total sobriety and stop drinking completely. Your daughter (and others) may not be able to get over this if you are still drinking, even if it is out of her presence. Don't fool yourself into thinking that she doesn't know, or won't find out. She has reason to think that, if you drink occasionally, it could ramp up and spiral out of control. She probably fears that, which fuels her anger and distrust.</p><p></p><p>Please don't take this as an indictment: we are here for you, and want you to succeed. Please stay with us. It took a lot of courage to put yourself out there for the world to see. That makes me think that you are ready for that next step. Go to AA. Get a sponsor. Work the program. Go to rehab if needed. See your doctor and ask for help, as going cold turkey off of alcohol could be dangerous.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I, too, have a daughter (11 years old) who has a step-father. They are extremely close, and I can't even imagine how she would feel/react if she were no longer in his life. Does your daughter still see her step-father? If not, can they continue their relationship, even though you won't be included? This might help your daughter to cope with her loss.</p><p></p><p>You need to get better, both for your sake, and your daughter's. Maybe this is the time for a decision?</p><p></p><p>Either way, stick with us.</p><p></p><p>On the days your daughter is away at her dad's house, stick closer.</p><p></p><p>We believe in you.</p><p></p><p>Apple</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 695898, member: 16024"] Hi and welcome, Maria! We can't change the past, and we can't change how others feel about it. We can only move forward, in the best way we know how. You know the old adage--once bitten, twice shy? It takes a while to get that trust back, and you can't rush the process. You have no choice but to let everyone process this on their own timetable. It would go a long way toward the process of healing if you would commit to total sobriety and stop drinking completely. Your daughter (and others) may not be able to get over this if you are still drinking, even if it is out of her presence. Don't fool yourself into thinking that she doesn't know, or won't find out. She has reason to think that, if you drink occasionally, it could ramp up and spiral out of control. She probably fears that, which fuels her anger and distrust. Please don't take this as an indictment: we are here for you, and want you to succeed. Please stay with us. It took a lot of courage to put yourself out there for the world to see. That makes me think that you are ready for that next step. Go to AA. Get a sponsor. Work the program. Go to rehab if needed. See your doctor and ask for help, as going cold turkey off of alcohol could be dangerous. I, too, have a daughter (11 years old) who has a step-father. They are extremely close, and I can't even imagine how she would feel/react if she were no longer in his life. Does your daughter still see her step-father? If not, can they continue their relationship, even though you won't be included? This might help your daughter to cope with her loss. You need to get better, both for your sake, and your daughter's. Maybe this is the time for a decision? Either way, stick with us. On the days your daughter is away at her dad's house, stick closer. We believe in you. Apple [/QUOTE]
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