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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 60560" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>It sounds like you're putting more blame on your son than your neighbor is. You think things wouldn't have happened if your son hadn't been there. I wouldn't bet on that. If the noise of the toy was annoying the boy, odds are he would have thrown it anyway. And if the first throw caused a part or two to fall off or make a cool noise, odds are he would have thrown it again all by his lonesome. Who knows, maybe his sister might have joined the "fun" if it had just been the two of them. If your son wasn't playing ball with your son, his sister might have been playing with him or he might have just tossed the ball by himself. So, the incident with the pool could have happened no matter what. At least your son tried to stop him. Give him some credit for that. </p><p></p><p>Your neighbors have seen improvement in your son. They were comfortable with him being there before. Your neighbor cared enough to call your son to let him know he's not hated. </p><p></p><p>I know it is hard to not blame our kids when things go wrong. Past history, past hurts, past embarassments are hard to get over let alone forget. However, we have to look at our kids in the here and now. That doesn't mean we let the past go entirely, just that we have to give them a chance to prove that they are maturing and making better decisions.</p><p></p><p>I've found that therapy doesn't necessarily make me feel better but it does give me a different perspective on things. It also helps me work out my feelings. To feel better, I need to get my endorphins moving. That means exercise, doing things that get me moving since I can't take medications well. So, I'd suggest you continue with the therapy. You might want to talk to the prescribing physician to see if maybe you need different medications for the depression since it doesn't sound like they are working all that well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 60560, member: 3626"] It sounds like you're putting more blame on your son than your neighbor is. You think things wouldn't have happened if your son hadn't been there. I wouldn't bet on that. If the noise of the toy was annoying the boy, odds are he would have thrown it anyway. And if the first throw caused a part or two to fall off or make a cool noise, odds are he would have thrown it again all by his lonesome. Who knows, maybe his sister might have joined the "fun" if it had just been the two of them. If your son wasn't playing ball with your son, his sister might have been playing with him or he might have just tossed the ball by himself. So, the incident with the pool could have happened no matter what. At least your son tried to stop him. Give him some credit for that. Your neighbors have seen improvement in your son. They were comfortable with him being there before. Your neighbor cared enough to call your son to let him know he's not hated. I know it is hard to not blame our kids when things go wrong. Past history, past hurts, past embarassments are hard to get over let alone forget. However, we have to look at our kids in the here and now. That doesn't mean we let the past go entirely, just that we have to give them a chance to prove that they are maturing and making better decisions. I've found that therapy doesn't necessarily make me feel better but it does give me a different perspective on things. It also helps me work out my feelings. To feel better, I need to get my endorphins moving. That means exercise, doing things that get me moving since I can't take medications well. So, I'd suggest you continue with the therapy. You might want to talk to the prescribing physician to see if maybe you need different medications for the depression since it doesn't sound like they are working all that well. [/QUOTE]
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