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<blockquote data-quote="Sharon1974" data-source="post: 94452" data-attributes="member: 2976"><p>JK has a very difficult time with transitioning as well. I have listened many times to the screams of "I hate you!", "You're stupid", and "I don't care." And I have lived through the stomping, and body throwing, and the ripping a room apart, etc. etc. I know it feels like nothing will work. And I don't think that anything will, not all the time anyway.</p><p></p><p>I have found that rewarding is very effective. I sat JK down and explained what I expected of him. We wrote a daily routine of what he was expected to do and when. How long it should take to do each of the things as well. I would try something like this. If he earns a certain number of stickers (or whatever) then he can have some computer time at --- O'clock. Tell him how much computer time he will get and then set a timer. Remind him periodically how much time he has left. When there is only about 2 minutes left start talking about how if he gets right off with no problems when the timer goes off he may be able to have computer time again tomorrow, if not - then there won't be any computer time tomorrow. He may still meltdown but try it for a month, and show no emotion when he gets upset (this means you can't get upset back, just be matter of fact). Sometimes it takes a while to change bad habits (this is what our psychiatrist says anyway). You may notice at the end of the month that the meltdowns are less often or less intense. </p><p></p><p>I am sure your child is not the same as mine, but I have found with JK that he needs to know what to expect - always.</p><p></p><p>Hope you find my advise useful, if not, then sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sharon1974, post: 94452, member: 2976"] JK has a very difficult time with transitioning as well. I have listened many times to the screams of "I hate you!", "You're stupid", and "I don't care." And I have lived through the stomping, and body throwing, and the ripping a room apart, etc. etc. I know it feels like nothing will work. And I don't think that anything will, not all the time anyway. I have found that rewarding is very effective. I sat JK down and explained what I expected of him. We wrote a daily routine of what he was expected to do and when. How long it should take to do each of the things as well. I would try something like this. If he earns a certain number of stickers (or whatever) then he can have some computer time at --- O'clock. Tell him how much computer time he will get and then set a timer. Remind him periodically how much time he has left. When there is only about 2 minutes left start talking about how if he gets right off with no problems when the timer goes off he may be able to have computer time again tomorrow, if not - then there won't be any computer time tomorrow. He may still meltdown but try it for a month, and show no emotion when he gets upset (this means you can't get upset back, just be matter of fact). Sometimes it takes a while to change bad habits (this is what our psychiatrist says anyway). You may notice at the end of the month that the meltdowns are less often or less intense. I am sure your child is not the same as mine, but I have found with JK that he needs to know what to expect - always. Hope you find my advise useful, if not, then sorry. [/QUOTE]
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