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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 123040" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Thanks for your input. I am more concerned about leaving my sister's name out of the obit than I am in the funeral ceremony. I agree with the celebration of life and have no problem with how anyone wants to arrange that whether it be a funeral service or in a banquet hall. I am uncomfortable with leaving a child's name out of the obit and leaving that baggage for the other children to deal with over the years. I've seen that done where the siblings are forever at odds because of what happened or didn't happen when mom or dad died. Dad feels as though he will be getting back at her for her turning her back on him, he'll show her. I don't see that celebrating anyone's life. I see that as being spiteful, vindictive. I don't want to remember Dad that way. My other sister and I have come to have a very good relationship with him and for me to have his life come down to fighting over who can and cannot come to his celebration of life is crazy. My sister will have to deal with not having had a relationship with him, that's far worse in my thinking than leaving her name out of the obit.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p><p></p><p>P.S. Fran, my Dad was a difficult child in his own right too. He is probably more than 50% of the reason he my sister are estranged. I believe he wants to hurt her, to disown her in public. I would rather we leave all our names out than one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 123040, member: 59"] Thanks for your input. I am more concerned about leaving my sister's name out of the obit than I am in the funeral ceremony. I agree with the celebration of life and have no problem with how anyone wants to arrange that whether it be a funeral service or in a banquet hall. I am uncomfortable with leaving a child's name out of the obit and leaving that baggage for the other children to deal with over the years. I've seen that done where the siblings are forever at odds because of what happened or didn't happen when mom or dad died. Dad feels as though he will be getting back at her for her turning her back on him, he'll show her. I don't see that celebrating anyone's life. I see that as being spiteful, vindictive. I don't want to remember Dad that way. My other sister and I have come to have a very good relationship with him and for me to have his life come down to fighting over who can and cannot come to his celebration of life is crazy. My sister will have to deal with not having had a relationship with him, that's far worse in my thinking than leaving her name out of the obit. Nancy P.S. Fran, my Dad was a difficult child in his own right too. He is probably more than 50% of the reason he my sister are estranged. I believe he wants to hurt her, to disown her in public. I would rather we leave all our names out than one. [/QUOTE]
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