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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 123120" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>I guess it's just a matter of personal preference. My former mother in law had always let it be known that she wanted to be cremated when she died but apparently had never said anything about what to do with her ashes. My (adult) daughter had always been very close to her grandma and was devastated when she died. When grandma died, they had a nice funeral service and then she was cremated. One daughter in law suggested that her ashes be scattered in the ocean near where she used to live, in a different state, so that's what was done. My daughter was OK with the cremation, but had a real problem with the way the ashes were handled. She said it was just like her grandmother disappeared, almost like she had never "been"! There was no grave, no marker, no nothing! No place for her to leave flowers, no place to go "visit" grandma if she wanted to sit and talk to her for a while like she always used to!</p><p> </p><p>My family is still talking about the service they had for my oldest cousins' husband! I think they had the right idea with this one. They had been married for over 40 years and he was a real character, always full of fun and playing pranks - one of the funniest people I've ever met! He had been sick with cancer for many years - kept his sense of humor right to the end. He wanted his body to be donated to the university medical school, so there was no funeral service after he died. Instead, about two weeks after, they held a simple religious memorial service for him, followed by a covered dish meal in the fellowship hall of the church. There were so many people there ... our whole huge family, friends, neighbors, his former co-workers, all their kids friends. And it turned out just like they thought it would. Everybody brought pictures and started swapping funny stories about him, and everybody ended up laughing, in spite of themselves! Just the way he would have wanted it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 123120, member: 1883"] I guess it's just a matter of personal preference. My former mother in law had always let it be known that she wanted to be cremated when she died but apparently had never said anything about what to do with her ashes. My (adult) daughter had always been very close to her grandma and was devastated when she died. When grandma died, they had a nice funeral service and then she was cremated. One daughter in law suggested that her ashes be scattered in the ocean near where she used to live, in a different state, so that's what was done. My daughter was OK with the cremation, but had a real problem with the way the ashes were handled. She said it was just like her grandmother disappeared, almost like she had never "been"! There was no grave, no marker, no nothing! No place for her to leave flowers, no place to go "visit" grandma if she wanted to sit and talk to her for a while like she always used to! My family is still talking about the service they had for my oldest cousins' husband! I think they had the right idea with this one. They had been married for over 40 years and he was a real character, always full of fun and playing pranks - one of the funniest people I've ever met! He had been sick with cancer for many years - kept his sense of humor right to the end. He wanted his body to be donated to the university medical school, so there was no funeral service after he died. Instead, about two weeks after, they held a simple religious memorial service for him, followed by a covered dish meal in the fellowship hall of the church. There were so many people there ... our whole huge family, friends, neighbors, his former co-workers, all their kids friends. And it turned out just like they thought it would. Everybody brought pictures and started swapping funny stories about him, and everybody ended up laughing, in spite of themselves! Just the way he would have wanted it! [/QUOTE]
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