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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 535414" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>This is the one thing that reached out and grabbed me more than anything else. You're right it is SO SO SO hard to ignore everything... And some things you just cannot ignore like him hitting his sister.</p><p></p><p>I've tried - and this is super hard but it seemed to work when I could manage it - putting on a blank face and speaking in a monotone. "You know we don't talk that way." (over and over and over). "Language." As far as the physical goes - hitting his sister and tickling you, which by the way is a form of TORTURE not AFFECTION - there must be an immediate and logical consequence. NO ONE should be abused even if it seems like "such a little thing". Water torture is only one drop. Repeatedly. It will wear you down (as you know).</p><p></p><p>Interestingly, I came up with something new to try with Onyxx that <em>seems </em>to work - I know it's a long shot but - let me give you an example. She did not zip her purse closed the other night then set it in the middle of the back seat. Well, she and Jett and Raven were to sit back there, so Jett (who got stuck in the middle) just pushed it onto the floor. He did not notice it wasn't zipped (he's 13, and a boy to boot). She started in on him. He said he was sorry, but she would not stop, just kept on and on and on. I finally said - monotone - "Enough. It's over." And... She shut her mouth. (She did mention that when I am quieter she worries about what I am thinking... LOL) Also, when my own Dad gets quieter and voice lower, I was in more trouble. So... It's a thought. At first he may push harder for a reaction.</p><p></p><p>Now as to the other stuff, tell him ahead of time the next time he does X or Y the power cord to his easy child will go away. Then follow through. It won't <em>always</em> work... But it's something to try.</p><p></p><p>With high-functioning autism, it's likely he gets "stuck" in the behaviors. So something has to be done to unstick him. Perhaps his psychologist can suggest something.</p><p></p><p>Also... Teenagers are a PITA. I have 2. I love them both dearly and want to strangle them both regularly...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 535414, member: 6705"] This is the one thing that reached out and grabbed me more than anything else. You're right it is SO SO SO hard to ignore everything... And some things you just cannot ignore like him hitting his sister. I've tried - and this is super hard but it seemed to work when I could manage it - putting on a blank face and speaking in a monotone. "You know we don't talk that way." (over and over and over). "Language." As far as the physical goes - hitting his sister and tickling you, which by the way is a form of TORTURE not AFFECTION - there must be an immediate and logical consequence. NO ONE should be abused even if it seems like "such a little thing". Water torture is only one drop. Repeatedly. It will wear you down (as you know). Interestingly, I came up with something new to try with Onyxx that [I]seems [/I]to work - I know it's a long shot but - let me give you an example. She did not zip her purse closed the other night then set it in the middle of the back seat. Well, she and Jett and Raven were to sit back there, so Jett (who got stuck in the middle) just pushed it onto the floor. He did not notice it wasn't zipped (he's 13, and a boy to boot). She started in on him. He said he was sorry, but she would not stop, just kept on and on and on. I finally said - monotone - "Enough. It's over." And... She shut her mouth. (She did mention that when I am quieter she worries about what I am thinking... LOL) Also, when my own Dad gets quieter and voice lower, I was in more trouble. So... It's a thought. At first he may push harder for a reaction. Now as to the other stuff, tell him ahead of time the next time he does X or Y the power cord to his easy child will go away. Then follow through. It won't [I]always[/I] work... But it's something to try. With high-functioning autism, it's likely he gets "stuck" in the behaviors. So something has to be done to unstick him. Perhaps his psychologist can suggest something. Also... Teenagers are a PITA. I have 2. I love them both dearly and want to strangle them both regularly... [/QUOTE]
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