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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 535415" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>yup. I have tens of thousands of dollars in therapies and help and if a child is wired like this it takes much more. But we still try of course. Hoping it all comes together.</p><p></p><p>Because, I too think this is a combination issue...probably driven by the fact that at his core, he really CANNOT relate to others feelings like neurotypical kids can. Not like sociopath or anything, he probably cares and loves etc.... but like a person with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) who just can't relate and even if he knows... AND knows the consequences...just does not put it all together enough that it makes the rewards from the release he gets from this kind of behavior worth the reward most of us would feel from the intrinsic feeling of being connected to others and making others feel good.</p><p></p><p>Your post is like several of us around here. I can think of three recent posts off the top of my head with similar issues and some of what you said is a lot like what happens in my house. My son's brain injury results in tic symptoms. He doesn't have the formal diagnosis of Tourette's because that is not used if the cause of Tics is a brain injury but his doctor says to just tell people he has it because it in effect is the same. (I struggled with that idea and people here helped me sort through it). My son clearly knows those words are not ok but he is compelled to say them and mainly say them to me or in situations where he can create a buzz....where people will look at him and it is becoming self rewarding because I have always said with him, Seeking attention never starts a behavior but it sure as heck increases it and makes it happen again and again. </p><p></p><p>My son also does the tickling and will pull my hair. He will also rub my hair (and other peoples...therapists and teachers). Really poor boundaries that way. But again, if it gets a bunch of attention, it increases. It starts because he likes the feel of it. He is compelled to touch people and things. Very sensory based. But the attention it gets really adds to it.</p><p></p><p>And your talking of his being provocative. I use that exact word. My son provokes others easily (even without knowing it most of the time, but is becoming very aware lately) and is also easily provoked. Makes for a stressful, always on edge life. I too feel like bursting into tears the other day he saw me start to tear up in Target and he panicked. Started saying, dont cry it is just too much for me in this high pitched loud voice. he started jumping up and down causing a scene. I put everything down and walked out of the store. He came at me and pulled my purse. Tried to drag me into teh store, blocked me from getting into the car, etc. I finally just waited him out and drove home. Just exhausting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 535415, member: 12886"] yup. I have tens of thousands of dollars in therapies and help and if a child is wired like this it takes much more. But we still try of course. Hoping it all comes together. Because, I too think this is a combination issue...probably driven by the fact that at his core, he really CANNOT relate to others feelings like neurotypical kids can. Not like sociopath or anything, he probably cares and loves etc.... but like a person with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) who just can't relate and even if he knows... AND knows the consequences...just does not put it all together enough that it makes the rewards from the release he gets from this kind of behavior worth the reward most of us would feel from the intrinsic feeling of being connected to others and making others feel good. Your post is like several of us around here. I can think of three recent posts off the top of my head with similar issues and some of what you said is a lot like what happens in my house. My son's brain injury results in tic symptoms. He doesn't have the formal diagnosis of Tourette's because that is not used if the cause of Tics is a brain injury but his doctor says to just tell people he has it because it in effect is the same. (I struggled with that idea and people here helped me sort through it). My son clearly knows those words are not ok but he is compelled to say them and mainly say them to me or in situations where he can create a buzz....where people will look at him and it is becoming self rewarding because I have always said with him, Seeking attention never starts a behavior but it sure as heck increases it and makes it happen again and again. My son also does the tickling and will pull my hair. He will also rub my hair (and other peoples...therapists and teachers). Really poor boundaries that way. But again, if it gets a bunch of attention, it increases. It starts because he likes the feel of it. He is compelled to touch people and things. Very sensory based. But the attention it gets really adds to it. And your talking of his being provocative. I use that exact word. My son provokes others easily (even without knowing it most of the time, but is becoming very aware lately) and is also easily provoked. Makes for a stressful, always on edge life. I too feel like bursting into tears the other day he saw me start to tear up in Target and he panicked. Started saying, dont cry it is just too much for me in this high pitched loud voice. he started jumping up and down causing a scene. I put everything down and walked out of the store. He came at me and pulled my purse. Tried to drag me into teh store, blocked me from getting into the car, etc. I finally just waited him out and drove home. Just exhausting. [/QUOTE]
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