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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 423387" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>OR... there can be some history going on that you don't know about. Our difficult child became very disrespectful, starting about Grade 2. First, to teachers, then at home. Peeling back the layers in the last 3 years (now in grade 9) - turns out that, in spite of mostly good intentions, he really was NOT treated with respect at school. So, he started fighting back, his own way.</p><p> </p><p>Like... he'd say he couldn't do something (write, for example), and the teacher always told him, "oh yes you can, you just need more practice", or "try this kind of pencil" or... so, he's not believed.</p><p> </p><p>Or, he'd say he was tired, and it was always taken as a cop-out - trying to get out of work.</p><p> </p><p>But he was right, and they were wrong. Like, probably at least 75% of the time. So, respect goes out the window real fast.</p><p> </p><p>Because WE couldn't fix the problems at school (they didn't believe us either), he lost respect for us. First in language, then in defiance, then in bigger issues.</p><p> </p><p>We're starting to make progress now - first, had to figure out what he was dealing with, then find some professional out there who supports our understanding and who can shake up the rest of the world. Shake-up still coming, but some improvements in respect levels just from difficult child understanding himself better!</p><p> </p><p>Just an idea...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 423387, member: 11791"] OR... there can be some history going on that you don't know about. Our difficult child became very disrespectful, starting about Grade 2. First, to teachers, then at home. Peeling back the layers in the last 3 years (now in grade 9) - turns out that, in spite of mostly good intentions, he really was NOT treated with respect at school. So, he started fighting back, his own way. Like... he'd say he couldn't do something (write, for example), and the teacher always told him, "oh yes you can, you just need more practice", or "try this kind of pencil" or... so, he's not believed. Or, he'd say he was tired, and it was always taken as a cop-out - trying to get out of work. But he was right, and they were wrong. Like, probably at least 75% of the time. So, respect goes out the window real fast. Because WE couldn't fix the problems at school (they didn't believe us either), he lost respect for us. First in language, then in defiance, then in bigger issues. We're starting to make progress now - first, had to figure out what he was dealing with, then find some professional out there who supports our understanding and who can shake up the rest of the world. Shake-up still coming, but some improvements in respect levels just from difficult child understanding himself better! Just an idea... [/QUOTE]
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